Late diagnosis

A couple years ago I got diagnosed with Asperger's. On my 48th birthday. Explained a lot of things, solved nothing. I am now 51 and a half, and crying as I write this. 

I cannot connect with the people around me, obviously - including what remains of my family - and really need an e-mail pen friend to communicate with on a regular basis.

Please contact me via this link or on [email address removed by Mod]

Sorry to sound ungrateful, but I do not need platitudes or 'thought for the day' stuff. 

But I need to make connections as my life is Hell right now, and I need a friend. 

Thank you for reading this. 

Darren

  • Hi Darren, I'm very sorry you're having such a hard time. Hopefully you feel a bit better now? I'm not diagnosed yet but believe I will be told I'm Autistic. I don't connect with my family either, they do not understand me at all. You are understood by us. I've already had a lot of understanding here.

  • Heheh it was gonna happen eventually - going out with a bang! Whats Red Fang - movie ?  

  • I'm afraid I will have to decline. Nothing personal, but it's just my policy now to only interact with members through forum discussions.

  • Havent watched much tonight. Its getting late but i might watch a Doctor Who blu-ray extra before bed. Raw studio footage from 1985 with no minutiae spared. An acquired taste (that kind of deep dive) but i love it. Nearly added something self-deprecating there about that to make you feel better but no, mustnt do that. Old habits . 

  • Sparkly, thanks. Can I send you a friend request? Will you accept? Reply?

  • Never got into numbers, although numbers do not lie. Apparently. Whatever floats your boat, I suppose

  • There are the forum discussions, which is what this is. However, one can also send friend requests to other members and exchange private messages. That side of things I am now steering clear of, as that is what resulted in me now being wary.

    From experience, I have found the forum can be a little like a ghost town at night, which is of course when a lot of people often feel lonely and in need of conversation if they happen to be wide awake. However, it can be a good time to catch up on posts by other members.

  • Shardovan! You're gonna get banned for swearing, **********!

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  • Im not great at the old maths though i got so unhealthily obsessed with stats a while back that i improved a lot out of ‘necessity’ so maybe thats less true than before 

  • Words, pictures, music. Numbers? No. I'm watching Red Fang on You Tube. You?

  • Not sure about swearing. I think i did the other day -‘shitty’ maybe? Apologies if i shouldnt be bug i imagine some mild swearing is prob ok. Context…

  • Non - mathematical; brain? 

  • Shardovan - I'm Sagittarius. Half man half beast, which seems ridiculously appropriate the more I think about it. 

  • Im white, male, and maybe half human god knows. I think youve probably found your tribe on here! We’re all neurodiverse… but diversely. Its well worth sticking around. Dont get discouraged if initially nobody seems on your exact wavelength - Ive had that too. But over time, i feel more in common and less alone. Hey your default name isnt too bad a number to remember! That helps my non mathematical brain to remember its you when i see a future post! 

  • Sparkly - thanks. I don't know the NAS forums as I just joined an hour ago. But I really appreciate the reply - makes me think I'm not alone and this kind of this works, you know?

  • It's a long story as to how I got my fingers burnt, but let's just say it has left me feeling somewhat wary. I don't mind chatting to people here on the NAS forums, as I feel it's a safe environment.

    The best advice I can give you is to be yourself. Maybe some will relate, agree with what you're saying, offer support and advice, etc. There are some who may disagree, and that's OK too.

  • Shardovan - the only hate I have is for myself and my wasted, lost life. That is why I am reaching out here, tonight. Over the hill, past it, losing at life in every way - oh, and NOW i get an Aspie diagnosis? And rules about what I can and cannot say?

    Are we allowed to swear here, or is that not allowed also?

    Shardovan, thank you for being in touch. I don't care if you are male or female, old or young, black or white, human or alien. Just thank you for your reply. 

    I'm just lost, desperate, and lonely. That's why I paid my 24 quid. I need company.

    So- thank you. 

  • Yeah the rules don’t seem too strict just stuff foryour own protection and things like no hate speech. Which im sure wasnt on the cards! :-)

  • Thanks Sparkly. Fingers burnt? Risk averse? I hope you are ok, and will listen to you if you listen to me. I just need someone for the way ahead. Didn't know about the forum rules as I've just joined up, so thank  you. 

  • I'm not here to offer platitudes either, but feel I should make you aware that the NAS mods will delete your e-mail because it's personal information and goes against forum rules.

    I wish I could help, but as I recently had my fingers burnt, I'm a bit like Shardovan and risk-averse.

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