Published on 12, July, 2020
Hi, I was talking to a lovely member yesterday about anxiety and I realised that I literally have no coping tactics for my anxiety and it's getting worse. I'm not sure how it is for everyone else, but for me it is terrible. Feel drained when I'm anxious, I'm tired all the time. I get the shakes in my hands. Upset stomach. Feel sick. And I become so jumpy and on edge. Like if the doorbell rings I become so scared and panicky that I have a panic attack, it's that bad. If I go out I'm the exact same and if I see more than one person the exact same thing happens. I have passed out before which makes it so much worse and embarrassing for me. I hardly go out now, if I do I avoid really busy places but I don't like to be alone either in case I'm attacked by someone. I have my dog who is also my best friend but she's not very protective so doesn't help this. I'm on edge and anxious now just writing this so I'm going to stop now. It's getting worse and I don't know what to do to make it better. There's always the doctor but that thought makes the anxiety even worse. I could call my old hospital but I don't know if they'll help me with anxiety and also talking on the phone is a trigger for me.
I'd be really interested to know what you do to cope with your anxiety, if you struggle with it as well.
There are real things in life which are worth being mindful about. Preventive.
I would suggest long term you find a puppy who will turn into a watch dog. But I would spend time researching dogs for the right one, not just for personality and lifestyle, but one who will have a connexion to also care for your other dog. But perhaps one who will need a ritual of exercise, maybe part husky?
This kind of being anxiety can be due to a wealth of built up unresolved issues or even unresolved understanding, which most of us experience. How does society function? How do humans connect? What makes a bumblebee fly. They could be extensive or even unresolved matters from relationships. I might suggest to see if you can't just buy a small notebook or a plain notebook and try writing things down. There's no overnight fix. But one needs to explore everything setting the self on edge. And find a sort of grounding - perhaps a spiritual one and also a physical one (knitting, yoga, walking, etc.)