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2 NDs in a bed? Recipe for success or disaster. Dating.

tophatstomper

I would like to find another girlfriend and be in love again. This has made me think of finding and hoping to date someone with similar issues and problems

I have never dated someone with similar issues or someone ND, but I met someone a long time ago who I really got along with and was ND and thought to myself - I could date this woman but I was taken for so not interested at the time.

I have been thinking about it and it could potentially be wonderful, we would help one another and have a good idea of why they behave the way they do.

But, I also think 'chain reactions' and nuclear explosions.

I would like to know from other people if this is a good idea or not?

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  • It really does depend on what your traits are and your partners traits/diagnosis. Some ND relationships work well because they understand each other much better than an NT person would but others can find it too draining to deal with needing to give a lot of emotional support to their partner whilst having anxiety or meltdowns/burnouts of their own. Sometimes ND people can click fantastically but can’t stand to live together because of clashes due to different executive functioning levels. (Although this is also pretty likely to happen with an NT partner) I’ve seen all these things happen with myself and with ND friends (not all autistic, quite a wide range of diagnoses, some with multiple) 

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  • It really does depend on what your traits are and your partners traits/diagnosis. Some ND relationships work well because they understand each other much better than an NT person would but others can find it too draining to deal with needing to give a lot of emotional support to their partner whilst having anxiety or meltdowns/burnouts of their own. Sometimes ND people can click fantastically but can’t stand to live together because of clashes due to different executive functioning levels. (Although this is also pretty likely to happen with an NT partner) I’ve seen all these things happen with myself and with ND friends (not all autistic, quite a wide range of diagnoses, some with multiple) 

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