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mrs.snooks

Hi all. I wondered if you had any tips of ways of helping to believe being "good enough".

I am a perfectionist and also quite competitive. Work is very important to me and I compare myself to a colleague who is super brilliant at the job we do. I am having trouble believing I am good enough, when I am not as good as her.

A friend has said that it is about being "good enough" and I believe that is what I am looking for, but it is not always possible for me to believe that about myself. 

I struggle with the problems I have with my austism a lot of the time and work is important because it gives me value in myself. I'm struggling to find value in my life today.

I kjnow that I am more than my job. But work feels like is the only thing that I am good at, so when someone is bettter than me, it really shakes my confidence.

Any advice would be really appreciated.

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  • Hi,

    I can understand being a perfectionist and feeling like you're never good enough. I get that a lot! It can be overwhelming and it's something that can stick in the mind like glue and make it hard to think about anything else.

    I think you should make yourself a nice list of things you're good at. I know mostly you're thinking about your colleague but I think having a list will be good for you too.

    First things first try not to compare yourself to your colleague. Because the end result is what's happening now. It's good to be competitive but don't let it overwhelm you and cause hassle. It's totally not worth it. 

    I think just focus on and remember this. Your colleague is brilliant at what she does... But equally so are you. You both have the job you do because you were and are good enough to do it. You're the same.

    I know autism can be difficult and it's hard not to focus on the difficulties but you have a job and you're doing really well in it, I still yet to get a job, so I am very jealous Slight smile

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  • Hi,

    I can understand being a perfectionist and feeling like you're never good enough. I get that a lot! It can be overwhelming and it's something that can stick in the mind like glue and make it hard to think about anything else.

    I think you should make yourself a nice list of things you're good at. I know mostly you're thinking about your colleague but I think having a list will be good for you too.

    First things first try not to compare yourself to your colleague. Because the end result is what's happening now. It's good to be competitive but don't let it overwhelm you and cause hassle. It's totally not worth it. 

    I think just focus on and remember this. Your colleague is brilliant at what she does... But equally so are you. You both have the job you do because you were and are good enough to do it. You're the same.

    I know autism can be difficult and it's hard not to focus on the difficulties but you have a job and you're doing really well in it, I still yet to get a job, so I am very jealous Slight smile

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