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Am i overthinking

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Im an teenager that works as an nursery student and isn’t that popular (I could be but I decided to just let it be and got introvert in like 1-2 months completely, till I got silent or passive aggressive all the time).

On apps like messenger or WhatsApp I mostly ignore everyone sooner or later bc I have the fear of being rejected so I do it first.

I deleted my instagram account bc It drove me crazy when someone I thought that I’m close to didn’t follow me anymore or didn’t follow me at all.

I have the constant fear of not getting an job in an nursery home or hospital bc I don’t have the best grades (in American scale I think it would be a C-D in like every subject)

I have the fear of getting fired or not getting an degree bc I am sometimes absent and the hospital says it’s getting out of hand (20-30 absent days in 1 1/2 years)

I always hear how much all of the other students are loved in the wards and then there is me, the silent weirdo who just is awkward.

I try to google EVERY personal problem I have to have somewhat of an scale if I’m overthinking or not and it drives me crazy every day. I lay in my bed and feel *** all the time but I never have an EXACT reason for that.

So is this overthinking or is it normal?

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  • Maybe I got this wrong but would you say this is the pattern?

    1. I am worried of [rejection]
    2. I spot certain behaviour or attitude (or lack thereof) on someone that means I may be [rejected].

    3. I google the problem or the situation and I find that this could mean [rejection], which confirms my suspicion, and reinforces 1.

    If this is the case, you are creating a self-fulfilled prophecy, You can swap [rejection] for any other thing you could be afraid of.

    The truth is that not everyone will like you, and everyone can find some aspect of you that do not enjoy. But that’s true for you and for anyone. It’s natural.

    What makes the problem here is how much you worry (and therefore, overthink it), and the thought process that creates the self-fulfilled prophecy.

    Understanding a self-damaging thought process (this or any other) is very important and helps you fight against it. However it is also important to understand that the root cause (your fear of rejection) may not necessarily disappear and it can come and go. However, if you identify and stop (or slow down) the self-damaging thought process, it can make a massive difference.

    I hope this helps.

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  • Maybe I got this wrong but would you say this is the pattern?

    1. I am worried of [rejection]
    2. I spot certain behaviour or attitude (or lack thereof) on someone that means I may be [rejected].

    3. I google the problem or the situation and I find that this could mean [rejection], which confirms my suspicion, and reinforces 1.

    If this is the case, you are creating a self-fulfilled prophecy, You can swap [rejection] for any other thing you could be afraid of.

    The truth is that not everyone will like you, and everyone can find some aspect of you that do not enjoy. But that’s true for you and for anyone. It’s natural.

    What makes the problem here is how much you worry (and therefore, overthink it), and the thought process that creates the self-fulfilled prophecy.

    Understanding a self-damaging thought process (this or any other) is very important and helps you fight against it. However it is also important to understand that the root cause (your fear of rejection) may not necessarily disappear and it can come and go. However, if you identify and stop (or slow down) the self-damaging thought process, it can make a massive difference.

    I hope this helps.

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