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Chris

Whats the most beneficial support that people (you) have received for their mental health? 

I have no idea what will help me recover and i have done alot of research, i am scared that even support from the CMHT will not help.

What self compassion do people (you) say to themselves to help with self-esteem?

I find self compassion very hard as i hate myself so much that it feels hard to positively talk to myself and i have no clue what to tell myself.

Has anyone actually started to identify their own emotions within themselves, and has this helped with regulating emotions or helps with not suppressing emotions?

i have started to identify my emotions to myself which is very tricky as i keep thinking every emotions i have is anxiety for even being overwhelmed all the time leads me to know not having a clue what emotion i am feeling, i have been making a mood journey wih a mood meter to try and help myself learn my emotions.

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  • Chris said:
    i have started to identify my emotions to myself which is very tricky as i keep thinking every emotions i have is anxiety

    I can really resonate with this. It's only since I had CBT that I realised some emotions may not be anxiety but they give me the same feeling. I think I work stuff out a lot in my head rather than using emotions. This might be one of the reasons why I over think as much as I do.

    Your cats are beautiful.

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  • Chris said:
    i have started to identify my emotions to myself which is very tricky as i keep thinking every emotions i have is anxiety

    I can really resonate with this. It's only since I had CBT that I realised some emotions may not be anxiety but they give me the same feeling. I think I work stuff out a lot in my head rather than using emotions. This might be one of the reasons why I over think as much as I do.

    Your cats are beautiful.

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    I always thought I knew exactly what I was feeling the same way anybody knows what they are feeling...they think about the situation and decide what the appropriate emotion is and feel that...sort of, or else they feel it and then think about the situation and then decide what it might be reasonable to call it.

    Prior to working out I was autistic, I had no clue there was any other way.  

    There are some emotions I used to feel quite intensely before the menopause; love, compassion, sadness.  Now they are there and still profound but seem a bit muted somehow.  The only thing I feel with any intensity is fear.  There are some emotions I don't think I've ever had; hatred for a person, jealousy, vengefulness - I don't understand those at all.  They serve no purpose and no situation makes them logical.

    Same goes for other people's emotions.  I think through the situation and what I know of them as a person.  I can then see that something must be making them happy, making them sad etc and offer support accordingly.  Again, I had no clue I was any different to anyone else in that regard.  

    It's all a bit of a mystery to me, how NTs go about this stuff.

    In the end, for all my assessment says I have alexithymia, I think I do know what I feel very well, but I think that there must be a time lag of perhaps moments or minutes behind NTs in getting there, since working it out intellectually must take longer than somehow magically being able to tell from some physical response.  I really don't get many physical clues at all. I can't tell if I am about to cry, for instance, much before I actually cry.