Anxiety about school

I'm 16 and diagnosed with autism and OCD. I've struggled with a lot of anxiety since I was around 11 but recently it's gotten worse. I missed a whole week of school last week because I was so anxious about going in. The Friday before the week I missed I was very anxious in lessons and I was struggling to keep it together in class and there was no particular reason for my anxiety I can pinpoint, which has never been the case for me before (normally I'm only a little anxious at school and I'm only very anxious for things like presentations and changes to the routine). Now I am worried about people asking me why I was off, as well as people seeing me being visibly anxious in class (People have noticed and asked if I was okay before). I have close friends who know about my anxiety and are very understanding and I am a very high-achieving student who generally enjoys lessons.

I have a therapist and my parents and my school are incredibly helpful and supportive. They've offered me some things to help, but they scare me too. For example, I would be allowed to go to the SEN room if I'm feeling anxious or during lessons I am particularly worried about, but I'm scared to do that as well because I've never done it before and it's not part of my routine. I really struggle with changes and making decisions. I feel like I'm stuck - everything that would help me would be too scary to do at first, but I also can't go into school with the routines I'm currently doing. Any advice?

Parents
  • hi i'm also 16 and have autism so I understand how you feel in regard to anxieties about school. First of all sorry that you're feeling really anxious right now and hope u are okay! If people confront you about why you were away from school it isn't really their business but you could just tell them you were ill or something, that usually works. I know that introducing something new into your routine is scary at first, but you might be better off in the long run if you take up the offer of going there when you feel anxious. You could try asking one your friends to come with you at break or lunch time to have a look in the room and familiarise yourself with it? 

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  • hi i'm also 16 and have autism so I understand how you feel in regard to anxieties about school. First of all sorry that you're feeling really anxious right now and hope u are okay! If people confront you about why you were away from school it isn't really their business but you could just tell them you were ill or something, that usually works. I know that introducing something new into your routine is scary at first, but you might be better off in the long run if you take up the offer of going there when you feel anxious. You could try asking one your friends to come with you at break or lunch time to have a look in the room and familiarise yourself with it? 

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