I struggled with this a long time - I can usually clean up after myself when I am on my own, but get extreme demand avoidance when I have to deal with other peoples mess.
Can you afford a cleaner for a few hours a fortnight? I was very reluctant for a long time since it's something I should easily be able to do myself.
I do get very anxious from the night before she comes until she leaves, but I feel a dirty house has a significant negative effect on my wifes mood (Bipolar)... and mine I suppose.
I struggled with this a long time - I can usually clean up after myself when I am on my own, but get extreme demand avoidance when I have to deal with other peoples mess.
Can you afford a cleaner for a few hours a fortnight? I was very reluctant for a long time since it's something I should easily be able to do myself.
I do get very anxious from the night before she comes until she leaves, but I feel a dirty house has a significant negative effect on my wifes mood (Bipolar)... and mine I suppose.
Thank you. I feel that reluctance to get a cleaner but your experience makes me feel it might be possible for me to achieve this seemingly impossible goal. My extraordinary achievements seem to be ordinary to others and I need my ego to be deflated slightly in order to accept the reality of who and what I am.
The place is in chaos even though i live on my own.
I find people difficult but i need them: again my ego needs to accept that being on my own doesn’t provide all the answers.
