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Anxiety and obsessions

Roguelife

I go through a lot of intense anxiety, as well as depression, and generally I'll be worrying to death about things I know I don't need to worry about it, or which I should put aside for now and deal with later. People have always told me I should be able to do this - choose to worry about something later, or dismiss worries from my mind - but this seems utterly impossible to me. 

Is this part of the obsessive way an autistic mind works? I know I obsess over mundane things too which don't cause me anxiety but which I feel compelled to do, and also I get pleasure from obsessing over certain interests. Do we just have to accept this worry as part of the obsessiveness?

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  • The biggest problem with being who we are is that we are wired differently to most. Our brains fixate on details, the "Good" and the "Bad", then have great trouble letting go-sometimes you even can't. This can be extremely upsetting, because what is worrying you is beyond your ability to do anything about in some cases. In others, you can help both others and yourself-but it's very hard to work out how. Emotional intelligence and intellectual intelligence are very different things.

    What we need are ways to cope and deal with issues that affect us that "neurotypical" people don't have to worry about. For myself, I was most relaxed at university because I knew what I had to do, when I had to do it by and where to find what I needed to let me do so. Of course, there were those annoying people who thought it was funny to cause chaos and "tease" others, even do pranks they thought were funny. But they tended to get weeded out by university authorities because of complaints after a year or two.

    I was least relaxed at work in a corner shop because there was NO telling who was going to come in next and what they might do and/or ask for. I never had to deal with physical violence, thankfully, but everything else came along. We were open seven days a week until very late, very small staff, idiots made life miserable... I came very close to having a Nervous Breakdown before I managed to get some help and find a way out.

    That started out as Depression, but got much worse as time passed and Anxiety and absolute frustration built up without an end in sight. My outside interests helped, but people like us get ground down very easily in totally unsuitable environments. Yet there was literally no more I could have done to get myself out of the situation.

    Suffice to say, I know all about not being able to put things aside and deal with them later. Being unable to let go of what was so upsetting to me nearly tore me down right to the foundations.

    My sincere advice? Get some real help and stay in touch, sometimes it will be the only thing which holds you together.

  • in reply to Soifre
    Soifre said:
    people like us get ground down very easily in totally unsuitable environments

    I've felt on death's door because of being in the wrong job, as dramatic as that sounds. You're absolutely right in what you say, but to others it's almost impossible to understand and if I were to be honest with them about my struggles it would just seem like weakness. Although I'm trying at the moment to move on from seeking understanding from anyone. I already care less about being accepted so I feel like I can work on letting go of trying to be be understood.

    Sounds like you've had some tough times, sorry to hear it. 

    Soifre said:
    My sincere advice? Get some real help and stay in touch, sometimes it will be the only thing which holds you together.

    Just wondering what you mean by 'real help'?

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  • in reply to Soifre
    Soifre said:
    people like us get ground down very easily in totally unsuitable environments

    I've felt on death's door because of being in the wrong job, as dramatic as that sounds. You're absolutely right in what you say, but to others it's almost impossible to understand and if I were to be honest with them about my struggles it would just seem like weakness. Although I'm trying at the moment to move on from seeking understanding from anyone. I already care less about being accepted so I feel like I can work on letting go of trying to be be understood.

    Sounds like you've had some tough times, sorry to hear it. 

    Soifre said:
    My sincere advice? Get some real help and stay in touch, sometimes it will be the only thing which holds you together.

    Just wondering what you mean by 'real help'?

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