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How can I explain myself?

Tommy Williams

I know how I am, I think that what I'm doing is normal, I have my routine, and I have my preferences. But when I interact with people and they point out the things that I'm doing, I don't know what to TELL them.

Like, I know it's due to how I am, and the stuff I do is how they came to the conclusion that I had Asperger's. But how can I explain it to everyone else?

I can't just say "Oh, it's who I am," because that just comes off as an arsehole, or possibly a narcissist. But I can't just blame my disability, can I? I can't stand those who will just use their mental disability as an excuse. Sometimes it feels like they don't actually have anything and are just a bit too egotistical, or those that do genuinely have the disability and keep bringing it up just want to get away with being an ***.

I'm not that kind of person though, I've felt like I've had to bring up my Aserger's as a defence, but I just don't know if it's the right decision or not...

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  • There's good reason for most things. Typically I have to respond with "Let me get back to you with an answer". And I do. And once I think about a thing I typically have a really valid reason. 

    I had a discussion the other day with someone who LOVES having these apps control the lighting and appliances and their tele. I don't. We didn't have a full discussion, but his quick response was "get used to it, it's here to stay". I thought about this. And I don't like them for a reason: they're a 'middle-man' (or woman). In the amount of time it takes me to unlock my phone, find the app, wait for it to boot up and for the network or bluetooth to work, swipe away any notifications, I could've had the lights flicked on, turned on the oven and probably made a full 7 course dinner! I'm exaggerating of course.  These completely valid reasons usually come down to finances, time or safety. I just can't always access the information on demand. 

    In fact, just today I've been staying with a friend for a week and mentioned several times how difficult it is for me to multi-task, but she's all over the place & doesn't quite understand what this means... so... She came into the kitchen to show me something 'interesting' while I was trying to cook and it sidetracked everything I was doing thus I ended up leaving an empty pan on a flame. Luckily her husband caught it quickly as he walked in. My world falls into perfect and absolute Order but only without distractions. When interrupted, I have noticed over the years I become a liability. I wish I could change this a million times over - I'm always surprised when it happens.

    If you spend time having a think about the world you've sorted out, I wonder if you may come to some similar conclusions? 

  • in reply to JuniperFromGallifrey

    I don't like this 'Smart-Home' concept, either. It's making us overdependent.

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