Published on 12, July, 2020
Hello,
Autism is all new to me and could really do with support. My brother is 27 and has not been diagnosed with Autism but after reading a lot of information it is clear that he has many traits and behaviours which lead me to believe that he has autism.
I have been evaluating my attitudes and have realised that I have not been supporting him at all. He is in a very low place and I don't know where to begin to help him. I just want to be there for him and support him but I feel lost in where to begin. I am hoping others have been in my situation and can help me with supporting my brother.
Any words of advice would be greatly recieved.
Steph
Hello Kerri-Mod,
Really appreciated you messaging me back and helping me. Thank you :)
My almost 27 year old autistic son has been denied pip. I have the mandatory reconsideration letter. I asked dwp for all material they used to make their desicion including the assessors report. Oh my god! The report is a complete pack of lies. I was in the assesment with him. He could not understand the questions and the assessor asked me to help him. I answered all the questions. He was visibly anxious. The assessor states he understood and answered all question without prompting! All my answers have not been reported truthfully. So my son doesn't receive the benifit he meets the criteria for because an assessor has lied. I now have to go before a tribunal. How does an everyday person prove the assessor fabricated her answers. My son and I know shes not telling the truth. I'd like anyone who's been though this to tell me if asking for a paper appeal and not go to court is just as good. I'm feeling sick at the thought myself, without any difficulties. God knows how my son is going to cope. Meeting him would be evident immediately. But horrendous for him.
Hi Stephb1,
Firstly, it's great that your brother has you to support him.
You might like to start by looking at the NAS website page offering information for siblings: http://www.autism.org.uk/about/family-life/siblings.aspx
If you think that it would be beneficial for your brother to seek diagnosis, there is information here about broaching the subject: http://www.autism.org.uk/about/what-is/broaching.aspx
If you need any further help or advice, you can always contact the NAS Helpline. Details are here: http://www.autism.org.uk/get-involved/about-us/contact-us.aspx
I hope you find the information and advice you need to help you.
Regards,
Kerri-Mod