Published on 12, July, 2020
Hi,
Im new to this site and just looking to connect up with other parents who have children with Aspergers syndrome. Im feeling pretty isolated with everything right now. My 12 year old daughter is suffering with high anxiety levels and is also having violent thoughts about me which is very upsetting both ways. We have a very close relationship and she has a normal calm upbringing with a dad and big
sister but she has always been obsessed with me as often says that I am the only person who understands her. We have gone through varios different obsessive stages with our daughter and this is now another one but it is difficult as she is now starting to say that she does not want to be here anymore as it upsets her that she is having extreme thoughts towards me. I know that she wont carry any of these thoughts out but it upsets her. im looking into cbt for her and also cutting out sugar too.
Any other advise would be much appreciated.
I have some thoughts on this, don't know if I'm right. I think maybe she feels these feelings towards you partly because she trusts you: the feelings are really more general, but they get expressed in your direction because it's safe. If that makes sense!
Also maybe because she's growing up part of her wants to be a bit more independant, and so is in a sense rebelling?
CBT might be a good idea, but also think about what else might be contributing to stress. I'm not sure cutting out sugar would help unless she eats excessive amounts. Carbs actually have a part to play in producing seretonin (a happy chemical) in the brain.