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20yr old m son with aspergers... i cant cope!

beentheredonethat
over 8 years ago

Well i never thought i would be writing on the community pages of NAS...Maybe its one of those last resort things where you think.. its only typing things on a page.. no one really reads it or cares but its sometimes helpful to get it all out.. Hmm not sure...

My son was diagnosed when he was about 10 after years of SEN intervention.. school action then school action plus... got excluded within a week of senior school.. had to home teach him for a year whilst working nights as a nurse whilst waiting for a statement... New school... FABULOUS.. school was great.. they loved him... he did well.. Obviously we had the usual troubles but we dealt with them... Nightmare stages through exams.. did those.. did well.. did A levels.. did well... Went to University AND IT ALL FELL TO PIECES.... since then my son has lived in his room.. doesnt talk..  wont take medication prescribed for depression.. drinks...gets up when we go to bed and goes to bed before we get up.. lives on his computer... does not bath.. wash.. change his clothes or have his hair cut... HES 20 years old... what can i do? GP and others wont talk to me as he is a adult.. Im sure he thinks that if he is not around when we are then hes not a niance or trouble... he cant see that hes ripping me apart.. he barrs his door on his bedroom so i cant get in.. Im really at a loose end..Suggestions on a postcard? 

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  • over 8 years ago

    Longman has long experience of the academic environment and has seen how hard it is to retrieve the people that fail to thrive there. I think he sees that there are few tools and techniques for retriving them and setting them on a better path. I think I have a more optimistic view that the fixed autistic component of the person is smaller and that much of the bad behaviour of these people is learnt and can be unlearnt if you can find someone with the time and the insight to unpick the tangled know that they resemble.

    Please keep contacting NAS directly and asking for help. I believe that they do have services that can identify the relevant local services (LA and NHS) that have the ability to retrieve some at least of these people.

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  • over 8 years ago

    Longman has long experience of the academic environment and has seen how hard it is to retrieve the people that fail to thrive there. I think he sees that there are few tools and techniques for retriving them and setting them on a better path. I think I have a more optimistic view that the fixed autistic component of the person is smaller and that much of the bad behaviour of these people is learnt and can be unlearnt if you can find someone with the time and the insight to unpick the tangled know that they resemble.

    Please keep contacting NAS directly and asking for help. I believe that they do have services that can identify the relevant local services (LA and NHS) that have the ability to retrieve some at least of these people.

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