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20yr old m son with aspergers... i cant cope!

beentheredonethat
over 8 years ago

Well i never thought i would be writing on the community pages of NAS...Maybe its one of those last resort things where you think.. its only typing things on a page.. no one really reads it or cares but its sometimes helpful to get it all out.. Hmm not sure...

My son was diagnosed when he was about 10 after years of SEN intervention.. school action then school action plus... got excluded within a week of senior school.. had to home teach him for a year whilst working nights as a nurse whilst waiting for a statement... New school... FABULOUS.. school was great.. they loved him... he did well.. Obviously we had the usual troubles but we dealt with them... Nightmare stages through exams.. did those.. did well.. did A levels.. did well... Went to University AND IT ALL FELL TO PIECES.... since then my son has lived in his room.. doesnt talk..  wont take medication prescribed for depression.. drinks...gets up when we go to bed and goes to bed before we get up.. lives on his computer... does not bath.. wash.. change his clothes or have his hair cut... HES 20 years old... what can i do? GP and others wont talk to me as he is a adult.. Im sure he thinks that if he is not around when we are then hes not a niance or trouble... he cant see that hes ripping me apart.. he barrs his door on his bedroom so i cant get in.. Im really at a loose end..Suggestions on a postcard? 

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  • over 8 years ago

    Well.. come tomorrow.. it will have been 2 weeks since i had any interaction from my son... Ive not seen him or spoken to him.. although he is here... still in his room...Ive had no washing from him.. he comes down when were asleep.. eats his meal... washed up his plate and thats it... I have tried texting him.. leaving notes under his door.. messaged with his meals asking him to talk to me... I just dont get it.. Its depressing me so much... all i hear is tapping from upstairs... and the occasional shout at the internet when it goes down.. or bash on the floor... How can i get throught  him? Im fed up with being told hes a adult now.. we cant make him do anything he does not want to do.. but on the other hand.. hes obviously not a threat to himself or others.. How long do i let this carry on.. Part of me wants to batter his door down.. part of me says its his right as a person t5o live his life the way he wants to.. Maybe what i think is not for the best.. i just dont understand anymore

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  • over 8 years ago

    Well.. come tomorrow.. it will have been 2 weeks since i had any interaction from my son... Ive not seen him or spoken to him.. although he is here... still in his room...Ive had no washing from him.. he comes down when were asleep.. eats his meal... washed up his plate and thats it... I have tried texting him.. leaving notes under his door.. messaged with his meals asking him to talk to me... I just dont get it.. Its depressing me so much... all i hear is tapping from upstairs... and the occasional shout at the internet when it goes down.. or bash on the floor... How can i get throught  him? Im fed up with being told hes a adult now.. we cant make him do anything he does not want to do.. but on the other hand.. hes obviously not a threat to himself or others.. How long do i let this carry on.. Part of me wants to batter his door down.. part of me says its his right as a person t5o live his life the way he wants to.. Maybe what i think is not for the best.. i just dont understand anymore

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