Published on 12, July, 2020
Well i never thought i would be writing on the community pages of NAS...Maybe its one of those last resort things where you think.. its only typing things on a page.. no one really reads it or cares but its sometimes helpful to get it all out.. Hmm not sure...
My son was diagnosed when he was about 10 after years of SEN intervention.. school action then school action plus... got excluded within a week of senior school.. had to home teach him for a year whilst working nights as a nurse whilst waiting for a statement... New school... FABULOUS.. school was great.. they loved him... he did well.. Obviously we had the usual troubles but we dealt with them... Nightmare stages through exams.. did those.. did well.. did A levels.. did well... Went to University AND IT ALL FELL TO PIECES.... since then my son has lived in his room.. doesnt talk.. wont take medication prescribed for depression.. drinks...gets up when we go to bed and goes to bed before we get up.. lives on his computer... does not bath.. wash.. change his clothes or have his hair cut... HES 20 years old... what can i do? GP and others wont talk to me as he is a adult.. Im sure he thinks that if he is not around when we are then hes not a niance or trouble... he cant see that hes ripping me apart.. he barrs his door on his bedroom so i cant get in.. Im really at a loose end..Suggestions on a postcard?
Thankyou for your c oncern.. Please tell your daughter she seems a very caring person... As for my son... well it has now been 10 days since i have seen him.. He comes down still when we are asleep.. eats his tea that i leave for him... clears up and thats it... This evening i dont know whats happening.. he asked me for his ESA paperwork (which he asked for by text) which i sorted for him and put under his door with a note saying i love him and am here for him when hes ready.. He left the house a hour later... No notes.. texts... good byes.. im really not sure what to do.. Part of me says hes 20 and a young man and maybe has a good reason for doing this... Part of me says.. what on earth is he doing and how dare he go out wthout letting me know and telling me what time he will be back or if he will be back.. If i contact him .. im interfering.. If i let him get on with it... Im not being responsible... There is no winning in this situation.. We just have to ride it out... Today my husband who is amazing... Exploded at me.... so my emotions are frayed to say the least... I can understand that he is also worried and it must be affecting him too.. but im his mum....Im angry.. upset.. frustrated.. tearful.. and scared if whats going to happen next... Im so sick of hearing hes over 18 and we cant do anything if he doesnt want to... Today is one of those days when you think.. hey ho why dont i just give up...