Published on 12, July, 2020
Well i never thought i would be writing on the community pages of NAS...Maybe its one of those last resort things where you think.. its only typing things on a page.. no one really reads it or cares but its sometimes helpful to get it all out.. Hmm not sure...
My son was diagnosed when he was about 10 after years of SEN intervention.. school action then school action plus... got excluded within a week of senior school.. had to home teach him for a year whilst working nights as a nurse whilst waiting for a statement... New school... FABULOUS.. school was great.. they loved him... he did well.. Obviously we had the usual troubles but we dealt with them... Nightmare stages through exams.. did those.. did well.. did A levels.. did well... Went to University AND IT ALL FELL TO PIECES.... since then my son has lived in his room.. doesnt talk.. wont take medication prescribed for depression.. drinks...gets up when we go to bed and goes to bed before we get up.. lives on his computer... does not bath.. wash.. change his clothes or have his hair cut... HES 20 years old... what can i do? GP and others wont talk to me as he is a adult.. Im sure he thinks that if he is not around when we are then hes not a niance or trouble... he cant see that hes ripping me apart.. he barrs his door on his bedroom so i cant get in.. Im really at a loose end..Suggestions on a postcard?
Hi BTDT,
I am sorry that you are in this situation. When I was like that I think my husband rang the mental health team. In Kent, I know, there is one number that you can use to ask for help. I know the number but it is on line too. You dial the number and then explain to some CPNs what is wrong. They deal with it.
If you're not in Kent, which is probably the case see if your local mental health team have a referral line for relatives. This spiralling down needs to stop. I got the help I needed and now at 8.30 have just had breakfast and am dressed. OK, the shower didn't happen, but I'm working on that.
Take care of yourself.
M.