Published on 12, July, 2020
I am a mum of two, 14 year old boy with asperger and a 12 year old boy with stress!
I am new to this ... expressing feeling and thoughts, I've never been on face book.
Most people, even though I'm lucky to very sympathetic friends, they don't really understand - although, they have children and every parent understands what it's like to worry.
(I nearly wrote 'even with perfect children' - but everyone has perfect children - it's just the world around and being able understand them, that's the difference isn't it?)
I know I need others who 'get' the problems without the added questions like: 'why doesn't he talk to the teachers at school?', 'why does he refuse to have his hair cut?', 'why doesn't he leave the house?' - HE JUST DOESN'T!! Worst of all, the looks like you're a soft parent who should just get their act together ... even my husband puts the blame of me for being too soft.
Do you get the feeling that you're the only one who can see a melt down approaching? - to be avoided at all costs - even if the end result is a domestic ... hard on the heart - but no one gets hit and nothing gets broken.
My youngest son always got it first - small, easy target - I've been his body guard all his life - I wasn't very good at the start, but I've learnt along the way. Unfortunately, I felt the only option for a long time was I had to take the blows for him ... not a nice place to be.
We're past the hitting out bit - nearly a year now (touch wood). Occasionallly things get broken - I see them as just that, 'things' - no one got hurt - is that wrong?
I'm not alone am I? R
Hi RosieF, I am the same with my son - I want to keep him safe but at the same time, I know he needs to learn how to handle life by himself. It's something I'm working on a lot lately with hi being almost college age.
I don't really have a good support network as I've not spent much time looking for one. But recently, I had started to notice that other people could do with support so I got to researching and found there isn't a lot, which made me research people who might be able to set something up in my area. I did get something set up but unfortunately it was terrible because the people running it have no experience with ASD and children with an actual diagnosis hated to go. I have made a lot of contacts though so I am working on another project, taking all the mistakes from the previous group to come up with something better.