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finally imploded!- and here I have landed

Mibl

Hi everyone,

I am joining this forum looking for people that might understand me and help me understand myself better.

My name is Mirjam and I am 46 years old. After having been told for as long as I can remember by everyone (even an employer in front of all the employees !) that I am weird, atypical, strange, socially awkward, bizarre, quirky, special, odd, excentric, peculiar, singular and any adjective in between (autistic even!), I have finally started to wonder if they don’t have a point. I have read up un autism and immediately realized that I am checking almost all boxes. It seems that all my weird quirks are actually pretty normal, for neurodivergents that is. This soul-searching came in the middle of a complete burnout. My therapist, (I can’t remember how many I have already seen and how often I have been told I just don’t want to get better and to do the work) very reluctantly had me sent to do the autism testing. I am a teacher and am struggling with the decision of whether to change employment….

I am looking forward to constructive discussions.

Big wave,

Mirjam

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  • You're not alone. I had a major burnout shortly after retirement and it stripped me of my well-crafted social skills. I thought it was a nervous breakdown but it went on for years. I didn't even think of autism until a friend recently suggested it and tried two or three screening tests. Suddenly, all that jumble of things I'd considered entirely separate psychological oddities slotted neatly into place.

    By the way - sympathy about therapists. I went through that with my husband, decades ago, and I must have seen about five or six over the years. One was everything I'd imagined (thankfully, my employer paid!) while the others ranged from not competent to OK. It's also so much a matter of whether you get on.

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  • You're not alone. I had a major burnout shortly after retirement and it stripped me of my well-crafted social skills. I thought it was a nervous breakdown but it went on for years. I didn't even think of autism until a friend recently suggested it and tried two or three screening tests. Suddenly, all that jumble of things I'd considered entirely separate psychological oddities slotted neatly into place.

    By the way - sympathy about therapists. I went through that with my husband, decades ago, and I must have seen about five or six over the years. One was everything I'd imagined (thankfully, my employer paid!) while the others ranged from not competent to OK. It's also so much a matter of whether you get on.

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