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Suzy

Hi

 Im new to forums and have joined to see if anyone else has the same dilemma as me. I'm  mum to 19 year old Joshua who  has autism. Joshua  is relatively high functioning, is being supported by mencap in unpaid employment with a local charitable organisation, he is unlikely to be able to work without some kind of support,  it's a fantastic placement. I hadn't arranged for Joshua to claim any benefits until recently, his ESA and DLA has now  come through and he receives more money than I expected. I planned for Joshua  to save this money for his future, but note that ESA will be stopped if he has savings over a certain amount. This money willl mount up quickly so  I dont know what to do. Anyone had similar dilemma?

Suzy

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  • Hi

    thank you all for responding and for the advice. I agree about money handling and budgeting. When Joshua's DLA was awarded he started  paying for his phone and paying a small amt of board each week, its very small amount. He also pays for any incidental expenses himself. He has some savings that have accumulated over the years from Birthday and xmas so  it wont take long before his savings hit the lower permittted amount. He isnt saving for anything special and has never been a child or adult who has  wanted anything particularly expensive.

    I guess at the heart of my dilemma is me feeling very uncomfortable about taking his money. But I do know you are right. 

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  • Hi

    thank you all for responding and for the advice. I agree about money handling and budgeting. When Joshua's DLA was awarded he started  paying for his phone and paying a small amt of board each week, its very small amount. He also pays for any incidental expenses himself. He has some savings that have accumulated over the years from Birthday and xmas so  it wont take long before his savings hit the lower permittted amount. He isnt saving for anything special and has never been a child or adult who has  wanted anything particularly expensive.

    I guess at the heart of my dilemma is me feeling very uncomfortable about taking his money. But I do know you are right. 

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