Hi, I'm new to this group, I've joint because I feel out of my depth and am struggling to find people to talk to.
My husband (44) was diagnosed with Asperger at 18 but lack of support or any real knowledge meant he spent most of the time masking. We've been together for nearly 20 years and over that time I've learnt his triggers, stimming, behaviours etc and apart from the odd bad mood he never really had meltdowns that couldn't be handled.
Recently however his meltdowns have become more frequent and violent (not towards me or kids) but has trashed our kitchen, smashed picture frames etc. The sad thing is he says he can't remember doing any of these things.
I managed to get a self referral for him for therapy and got him to the dr who thinks he might also have depression but my husband refuses to believe this and refuses to take the therapy seriously.
He had another meltdown last night because I mentioned someone has shingles at my work. He phoned the crisis line (voluntarily) but then ranted about something that happened 10years ago.
I'm so anxious about leaving the house with him to see friends or family incase someone says something he doesn't like. I've asked him about coping strategies and walking away etc but he says it's not him so shouldn't have to.
I'm running out of ideas.
Thanks everyone and sorry for long post. X
