Newly diagnosed at 77

I thought I must have ADHD as I struggle to pay attention and concentrate and I'm regularly distracted from getting things done eg start read a book then go to make a cup of tea and while i'm making a cup of tea I see there's washing up to be done and while I'm washing up I see through my kitchen window there's stuff needs doing in the garden, and when I've pottered about in the garden I come in and go to the bathroom and notice the floor needs cleaning then while I'm there I decide the bathroom needs reorganising and so it goes on and on etc and when I eventually sit down with the book again I've lost motivation and . Besides that I'm often forgetting I've got stuff boiling in pans until I smell burning, I'm often leaving keys in the door or forgetting to lock the door. I left a supermarket without paying a while back as I got distracted after I'd scanned everything and just walked out. I once thought I was on a dual carriageway and started overtaking a lorry only to realise quickly I wasn't. I forget to take medication despite setting alarms and making notes. When I went to GP to tell him all this he said to do an autism assessment as well as ADHD assessment as they have things in common. So I had the ADHD assessment and was told they didn't think I had ADHD though I still don't see how they got that conclusion from the interview.. So I went through the motions and did the Autism assessments and now been told I've Autism Spectrum Disorder.

What am i supposed to do with that information? It gives an explanation (or excuse?) for my many shortcomings throughout my life but I don't see how it can help me going forward if I can't change anything because my brain is wired differently to most people and that isn't going to change..

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  • Good morning from America, Stewart!

    Congrats on your diagnosis! Though, that is strange you didn’t get a dual diagnosis. ADHD is very common with ASD (I’ve got both), and it sounds like you could have inattentive ADHD like me. Regardless though, I see the point of getting a diagnosis of ASD is to help forgive yourself (past), understand yourself (present), and assist yourself (future). Now you have the power to better advocate for yourself when facing situations such as avoiding harsh sensations, managing awkward social scenarios, and regulating your emotional state.

    Let me give a practical example: Before I was diagnosed I was awkward at family get togethers and it would burn me out so badly to go to a party. They would comment when I would disappear or look miserable. Now that my family all knows I have Autism, they don’t find it alarming when I dip out for a bit to relax.

    Hopefully that is good advice. I hope that the new diagnosis gives you more clarity about your life!

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  • Good morning from America, Stewart!

    Congrats on your diagnosis! Though, that is strange you didn’t get a dual diagnosis. ADHD is very common with ASD (I’ve got both), and it sounds like you could have inattentive ADHD like me. Regardless though, I see the point of getting a diagnosis of ASD is to help forgive yourself (past), understand yourself (present), and assist yourself (future). Now you have the power to better advocate for yourself when facing situations such as avoiding harsh sensations, managing awkward social scenarios, and regulating your emotional state.

    Let me give a practical example: Before I was diagnosed I was awkward at family get togethers and it would burn me out so badly to go to a party. They would comment when I would disappear or look miserable. Now that my family all knows I have Autism, they don’t find it alarming when I dip out for a bit to relax.

    Hopefully that is good advice. I hope that the new diagnosis gives you more clarity about your life!

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