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AlfLCFC

Hello My name is Alfie. I’ll be honest I’m here because I’ve been struggling for over 10 years. I’m 21 years old and have struggled with maintaining friendships or relationships with anyone and feel like I get nowhere. Ever since I left primary school. I got bullied in secondary school. College wasn’t any better and work I thought was going good but I’m back square one. I feel like I keep going rinse and repeat finding “friends” or “the girl” but end up screwing up everytime or drifting apart. I feel like I just can’t catch a break in life. If anyone can give some advice or help it would be much appreciated. 

  • Hi AlfLCFC,

    Friendships are especially hard when you autistic, it can be hard to find people you gel with. I was bullied most of my school life, so I get how that feels, and it adds an extra layer of difficulty on top! I hope you can enjoy talking about it all here, it helps to have people you can connect with and ask questions!

  • Totally feel you on the "drifting apart" front - I'm 25 myself, and I used to go to this combined Primaray and Secondary school in Hong Kong, but since coming to Britain, keeping an active social life has been so much harder.

    Like with the old friends groups - I think it's a classic case of "ot knowing how good you have it til it's over"

  • Hi, welcome to the community. I found my place here and like minded people,  I wish you the same! 

  • Hi Alfie. You're in the right place. You'll find people here who truly empathize with your concerns and have endless patience, as long as you play fair with them.

    I have found there's some highly intelligent people here who can give you the benefit of their own experiences and insights. Don't be afraid to open up to them. You won't regret it. You will never be judged.

  • Hi Alfie  welcome to our community. Lots of good folk here with lived experience to share. I'm 60 today and was diagnosed AuDHD last year after many years of feeling different. I was badly bullied at school too. One thing I would suggest from my experience is to work on being  kind to yourself as relationships are not as easy for us folks and it takes time and patience. Hopefully you will find solidarity here as I have, and that's a start.