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Late diagnosed Level One Autistic at 45 years old

Daiseegurl

Hello!

I am 45 and started to suspect/wonder if I’m autistic over the last couple of years, but took my suspicions and wondering more seriously this last year.  I decided to be assessed and have been diagnosed as level one autistic.

I think somehow entering menopause made me see the autistic traits I have and have always had.  I just didn’t know these traits I have were autistic traits until recently.  

Once I realized I’m autistic (even before official diagnosis), I suddenly had a new self-compassion and understanding I’ve never had before!  My internal dialogue completely changed and that’s been amazing to me. (I was pretty hard on myself my whole life, but that seems to be over!)

I don’t have friends, per se - my family are my friends, and I’m friendly with people I work with at part time job. 

I thought I’d try to socialize more in an online community for autistic individuals.  Just hoping for some fun, friendly chats.

Looking forward to chatting with y’all

Cheers!

Daiseegurl

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  • Hi  

    I only realised later on too, and that shift in self-compassion is such a big thing. I’ve been really hard on myself most of my life as well, so it’s been a slow process.

    I can relate to not really having friends as such. For me, I’ve realised through therapy that some of my family relationships weren’t very healthy, and I often felt valued more for what I could give than who I am. So I’m kind of finding my way with that too.

    I hope you enjoy chatting with us 

    Blush

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  • Hi  

    I only realised later on too, and that shift in self-compassion is such a big thing. I’ve been really hard on myself most of my life as well, so it’s been a slow process.

    I can relate to not really having friends as such. For me, I’ve realised through therapy that some of my family relationships weren’t very healthy, and I often felt valued more for what I could give than who I am. So I’m kind of finding my way with that too.

    I hope you enjoy chatting with us 

    Blush

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  • in reply to Lonehare12

    Yes!  The shift with self-compassion because of self-understanding has been amazing for me.  I’ve always been hard on myself, and now that just seems to be over! 
    I’m sorry to hear your family relationships aren’t exactly healthy.  That must be difficult.  
    Even having people that care about you in your life, it’s hard because if they aren’t neurodivergent, they just don’t “get it”, so to speak.

    Nice to meet you!  
    Relaxed️