Hi there, I don't really know about any social etiquette here so Im just going to be blunt. I have been diagnosed as having Asperger's around 10 years ago. When I've gotten that diagnosis it didn't really change anything for me for my family it helped them understand why I was different. For me I can't really say I've gotten any thing that specifically addresses it at least to my knowledge I have been talked to to help other in understanding and back in high school I had gone to a lego club to talk and communicate with some other people now. But now I have been trying to get a job for over 2 years at this point I am a recent graduate since last year, I have been applying to jobs for a long time and I haven't gotten anything yet. My sisters have tried to help me with it by having me provide updates on what I have been doing in regards to job hunting. A big issue I have is that I don't really communicate enough with them, whether it be about rejections or interview when sometimes I don't tell them or at least I don't tell them straight away. Today actually my sister was mad at me because I had a take home assignment that I have completed for Friday but then I got new requirements, I didn't inform my sisters about this, I did inform someone else to help me in my work and informed the person who gave me the assignment that there will be a delay, then I submitted it on Sunday. I got a message yesterday that there was a problem with speed and thus was rejected. My family who was here at the time got really mad at me for not communicating these things sooner, and that has been an ongoing problem that I've personally been trying yet keep making the same mistakes, and the reason I struggle to communicate is because Im scared to talk about my problems, Im scared that everytime I message I ruin things, and I message late or not at all is because each time I talk I feel really tired of talking. During one of the times my communication issues have been brought up I've told them that I was scared and that I know it makes no logical sense and that I should get over it but it doesn't stop me feeling this way, even though I know that talking will make it better. And something else here for context my family needs me to get a job so that I can help support the family as my sisters are both working and busy and my Mother, no farther, doesn't work, so I understand that they are tired and stressed and need me to do this. I want to get a job but everything I've applied to lots of them and barley any interview if there are I get a rejection notice, and I have tried part time and looking around my area of Barnet or near my station which is Edgeware but nothing, and at this point I am tired of constantly applying and updating them and getting rejected. I was told by my sister that I should look into autism communities to help with my communication skills which is why as I never really talked about my issues before to anyone, while I was looking I saw some sites that say that talking can seem like a really difficult task for neurodivergent people even if its a small message and I felt both validated and ashamed that I have a reason for being like this and that it feels like an excuse. The point Im trying to make is that I need help in well talking, in communicating how to message people without me feeling like I'll mess up everytime I message them and how to get a job.
