Newly diagnosed 29 y/o woman, struggling to accept

Hi everyone, I’m new here and hoping for some guidance.

I was diagnosed with autism on Tuesday through the Right to Choose pathway with Clinical Partners. The assessments themselves felt thorough, but the actual diagnosis was delivered in a very blunt five‑minute phone call. I asked a few follow‑up questions but the responses were short, and I was told my report will take 2–4 weeks to reach my GP. It’s left me feeling like I’ve been handed this huge piece of news with no support or direction.

Even though I suspected autism for a while, the diagnosis has hit me in a way I didn’t expect. I keep finding myself wondering if I somehow said the wrong things in the assessments, or if they misinterpreted me. It feels strange to have this label that’s supposedly been part of me my whole life, yet right now it doesn’t feel like it “fits” or belongs to me. I can’t seem to sit with it — I feel numb, confused, shut down, and unsure how to cope or what to do next.

If anyone is willing to share how you processed your diagnosis, what helped you in the early days, or anything you wish you’d known at the start, I’d really appreciate it.

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  • I was recently diagnosed at 28 last month and I was in exact same boat! I felt better soon as I spoke to my family about it ( mum and dad) as they was really supportive and understood more about why I used to say and do certain things as a child. Some people struggle to talk to people but that’s definitely what worked for me as it felt like a massive relief and was nice to get it off my chest. It doesn’t define you as a person it’s just who you are and never forget that Slight smile I hope that you’re okay and everyone here seems so supportive so maybe you feel at home here and know your not alone

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  • I was recently diagnosed at 28 last month and I was in exact same boat! I felt better soon as I spoke to my family about it ( mum and dad) as they was really supportive and understood more about why I used to say and do certain things as a child. Some people struggle to talk to people but that’s definitely what worked for me as it felt like a massive relief and was nice to get it off my chest. It doesn’t define you as a person it’s just who you are and never forget that Slight smile I hope that you’re okay and everyone here seems so supportive so maybe you feel at home here and know your not alone

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