Hello everyone

Hi everyone,

My name is Lauren I’m new to joining and I’m kind of nervous.

I’m 32 and I received an Autism diagnosis at the age of 30. I have never really been good at fitting in with people due to issues with understanding how Autism presents in friendships but I want to meet people who may understand that I am just myself. I have tried to fit into online communities in past but never found one where I was able to stay comfortable without judgement or bullying and I’m hoping by joining I will find a way to take off some of the loneliness.

I have interests in various things including digital art (my pfp is one I drew myself) learning languages (in particular German), video games, walking in forests and nature and watching documentaries on many different topics (animals and wildlife in particular). 

I work a shop job which I really like because they have been very supportive with any difficulty I have. It’s not a lot but it’s something I enjoy to help people who come in to the store and get to talk to them. I’m hoping here I will find peace and people to connect with.

  • Hi Lauren,

    Thanks for your lovely reply. I am sorry that you have been poorly. Hope you are recovering well?

    I am so pleased that you are making more connections. 

    Forests are amazing aren’t they. I can look at trees for hours, and I am in awe of their beauty.

    Post diagnosis has been quite difficult for me, and I think I am starting to feel less scared about the future. Burn out has been problematic so I am exploring ways to improve my wellbeing.

    Hope you have a great week.

    Debbie 

  • Hi there! 

    oh wow we really do have a lot in common! I would love to connect! 

    I apologise for the late reply I have been poorly with a horrible chesty cold that knocked me about a bit! 

  • Hi Debbie!

    Thank you for the warm welcome! I am definitely making more connections that feel more authentic and understanding and I hope you are getting on well with being newly diagnosed as I know it can be a little daunting at the beginning.

    i love the outside especially in forests and one nearby to me has tress from around the globe planted so it’s amazing to walk around and see them all!

    I apologise for the late reply, I caught a terrible chesty cold!

  • :) Thank you I hope so too. 

  • Hi Lauren,

    I think you sound really cool, and it seems we have a lot in common. And your profile picture looks great!

    I’m 36 and got my autism-diagnosis last year. I love graphic design, gaming (don’t ask me how many hours I spent playing Overwatch ), and languages (I’m Norwegian and studied English in Germany Laughing). I lived in Germany for 10 years, and I loved it. 

    I’d love to connect if you’re up for it! 

  • Hello Lozza, I admire you learning German. I did try but am dyslexic so struggled. I do like Kraftwerk and would like to visit Dusseldorf one day to see their old studio. Last time I mentioned Fassbinder to a German they thought his films were miserable.

    The Alice Neal exhibition was about two years ago but remember a portrait of Andy Warhol as he loved her work. Neal produced a self nude at the age of eighty as she would be accused of insanity not vanity if she were younger. She had a great sense of humor as one portrait was considered so shocking they had to exhibit it in a cleaners cupboard back in the 60's. Please do look her up as she is not well know here. Glad I did go as I loved her work within minutes of walking in.     

  • Hi Lauren,

    I hope that you meet authentic friends and make positive connections. I am fairly newly diagnosed too and just wanted to say Wave 

    I share your interests in nature and wildlife. Being in green spaces is when I am most relaxed and able to be my authentic self. 

    Have a lovely weekend.

    Debbie 

  • Hi thank you for the lovely welcome! The outside is such a beautiful place when you get to be in nature and forests have always been wonderful places to walk and enjoy slower paced relaxing. I hope you’ll get to spend a lot of time outside this year! 

  • Hi thank you so much for the kind welcome! 

    That is soo coo, it is nice to meet another person who enjoys German culture! My friend lives in Germany and often tells me about it there and just the past few days we stared speaking more in German to help my confidence grow!

    Oh id love to hear about the exhibit sometime if you find time!

  • Hello Lauren :) I hope you find some supportive connections here. I also like spending time in forests, I would like to spend more time outdoors in nature this year. Welcome :)

  • Hello Lauren and wellcome to the community.

    I enjoy my own company and have a love of German culture as Kraftwerk are my favorite band and Fassbinder is my favorite film director. I also appreciate art and  enjoyed a Alice Neal exhibition at London's Barbican Centre a few years ago.

  • I habe such a love for languages! I also get to learn so much about the cultures of the people who speak them too! I am always fascinated by it! 

    I do draw too! I can draw in both traditional and digital media. Digital is my preferred but I loved the old pencils and ink drawings by hand too!

  • Yes, it’s a wonderful place and I’ve always felt very accepted here. It’s pretty special :) 

  • Thank you so much for the warm welcome! I’m finding it so very full of wonderful friendly people here like yourself! 

  • Hi there and thank you for the kind welcome! I am also finding out just how supportive and lovely people are here and it has brought me a lot of joy and happiness to know this is a space I can feel myself in and be accepted and understood while also connecting with others.

    i am slo not great at too much social stuff but I have to agree chatting here is fun and I’m glad you are feeling that too! I’m open to chats anytime and I hope you’ll feel free to!

  • Hello - I’m sure you’ll find a very welcoming and supportive community here (that’s definitely been my experience). There’s loads of kindness and solidarity among the autistic people on here - I’ve found it so helpful and interesting. I’m not great with social stuff but I enjoy chatting to people in this online community - it’s super friendly. 

  • Welcome Lauren!

    We don't bite, here! We know how you feel!

  • Ooh that sounds so lovely! A small quiet town is similar to mine in England! We get a lot of tourists too! 
    I am sorry you feel a bit like an outsider I hope by talking here you feel less like an outsider, I know that is a hard feeling to feel from my own experience.

  • Hi lozza, it’s amazing that you’ve tried so many languages it’s not an easy skill to master! Your art looks amazing…. Do you draw too? 

  • Ich wohne in einer kleinen Stadt in Ostdeutschland, es gefällt mir sehr, es ist ruhig und gemütlich. Im Sommer haben wir ganz viele Touristen. Deutsch gefällt mir, aber war niemals mein Interesse. Sprachen lernen fällt mir leicht, aber trotzdem bin ich immer die fremde und nicht angepasste.