Diagnosis Terror

Morning all. I've suspected I'm autistic for about 3 years now having been "peer reviewed" by other neurodiverse friends and relatives. Have had mental health problems and presumably burnouts (lost jobs, friends etc) nearly 40 years etc etc. My GP suggested Right to Choose but I'm terrified having read some of the reviews of places clearly unsuitable and providing poor services. Is there really any benefit to a formal diagnosis and does anyone have any advice about negotiating this labyrinth?

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  • The strange thing I noticed was when I took myself for a diagnosis through self exploration because there was an article about it in a journal I was reading. Mostly because I’m very socially overwhelmed, I prefer quiet reading and studying over partying - I used to read Latin at 15 extra curricular. Im not great at making conversation , I prefer company and maybe playing a game. I have a serious aversion to crunchy noises but am otherwise quite a relaxed person.

    It wasn’t until after I was exploring and receiving a diagnosis that people started labelling me as a problem or with problems but inventing the problems entirely. It was very difficult for me to keep the evidence to prove otherwise and it was very distressing to be overpowered by a group of manipulative people but I was lucky In the fact I had a lot of support and positive friendships. Some people even randomly try to accuse you of being controlling without any supporting information just wild accusations. I don’t think I would tell many people in the future - I think this is a lot to do with their need for control / power and the need to dominate, maybe insecure around me because I’m very clear and articulate. I’d let HR know if I needed support with problems that haven’t arisen yet but other than that I’ll continue to be quiet, kind, supportive and take my time in making decisions…. I’m very aware that people try reverse psychology on you to trick you when asking questions and also tell you to do the wrong thing. So I stay dependent on myself only and people I know and trust such as family 

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  • The strange thing I noticed was when I took myself for a diagnosis through self exploration because there was an article about it in a journal I was reading. Mostly because I’m very socially overwhelmed, I prefer quiet reading and studying over partying - I used to read Latin at 15 extra curricular. Im not great at making conversation , I prefer company and maybe playing a game. I have a serious aversion to crunchy noises but am otherwise quite a relaxed person.

    It wasn’t until after I was exploring and receiving a diagnosis that people started labelling me as a problem or with problems but inventing the problems entirely. It was very difficult for me to keep the evidence to prove otherwise and it was very distressing to be overpowered by a group of manipulative people but I was lucky In the fact I had a lot of support and positive friendships. Some people even randomly try to accuse you of being controlling without any supporting information just wild accusations. I don’t think I would tell many people in the future - I think this is a lot to do with their need for control / power and the need to dominate, maybe insecure around me because I’m very clear and articulate. I’d let HR know if I needed support with problems that haven’t arisen yet but other than that I’ll continue to be quiet, kind, supportive and take my time in making decisions…. I’m very aware that people try reverse psychology on you to trick you when asking questions and also tell you to do the wrong thing. So I stay dependent on myself only and people I know and trust such as family 

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