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Cal_Terminus

Hi there!

Totally new to this so please bear with me while I get used to this thing.

I am looking to see if there are any others out there struggling with the norms of a work environment? I have had a very unpleasant run in with a colleague. He has said and done some things which are quite unpleasant, which is terrible. Given we work for a great employer that has been very understanding and inclusive previously.

Some of my struggle is very much grief based, I lost my father coming up to six years ago sadly. I feel a need to have him around even though it isn't possible in reality.

The pain of that thought has led to me imploding in the evenings while they get a lot darker earlier.

  • in reply to Cal_Terminus

    Sorry for the typos, had a late night last night.

  • in reply to Stuart333

    Hi Stuart,

    Sadly not, no. The building we're in is quite small .It would mean I'd give up my building access if this person stays on in the team. I have no desire in ever seeing him again. Its difficulr because he is managemenf and has losr all of my trust when around him. More than just a little of me is hoping they'll remove him. It was that bad when alone with him and I'm a valued lkng time ssrvant of the organization.

  • There's not much to go on here.

    You said you have a great employer but have had a problem with one person. That just means you have a problem with one person. The employer is still the same. Can you avoid that one person, or just keep communication to a minimum.

    Is this a work problem, a problem dealing with certain people (which happens everywhere), or an over reaction?

  • in reply to Mr T

    Sadly its proving true in a place I never thought it would be possible. All the while I get told that systems are getting better with helping get more people employed. A load of nonsense, when it comes to someone living with something on the spectrum. I didn't believe them then and I certainly don't now.

  • work situations can either be very supportive on the outside but when you delve deeper it is subject to peoples conscious and unconscious biases based on what they know or don't about autism.

    Until I was diagnosed I had a certain unconscious bias regarding autism based on stereotypes and what I had been exposed to such as the  'rainman' movie.

    How do we survive against this? I do not have a clue especially now we have the populists shouting loudly about it being over diagnosed and something of a fad to claim benefits. This all feeds into peoples unconscious bias.