I have a grandson who will be 13 this year. He has always been different from the day he was born. His mother is french and his father is English. When he was 3 his father and mother moved to France to live. My grandson had always had difficulty socialising with other children and had numerous episodes of upsetting/ pushing other children. He was always concidered to be a badly behaved naughty boy. At about 4yrs old he was excluded from school and referred to a psychologist. The diagnosis was that he had an incredibly high IQ and that he need more mental stimulation. He also needed to spend more time with his father. The spending more time with his father was a little odd as his father had always been his main carer. He was put up a year and returned to school. The family moved and there became a patern of him changing schools for various reasons to do with behaviour and fitting in. He was bullied many times. at approx 6yrs old after a traumatic visit to France I suggested to his parents that they needed help to communicate with him. At this time I did not mention that I thought he may have Aspbergers. They both rejected the idea explaining that his behaviour was due to his IQ and he was constantly challenging them. Fast forward another 6yrs a broken marriage. a sister 7yrs and and ready made new family of a younger boy 6 and girl 5. We have a grandson who is totally alienated by his father and his new family.( His mother who he and his sister lives with) accepts that he has Aspbergers and is understanding. he was last year referred to a French psychologist who has been working with my grandson and both his parents. Unfortuately having just spent time with him a fear that it all has been put down to emotional and behavioral problems. His father has told us that he has been told that my grandson should stop being so childish and his tantrums are due to his attention seeking. We have just witnessed a week of my grandson being punished and shouted at and reduced to tears. Blamed for everything. Expected to one minute play with his siblings and the next minute told not too. He is so frustrated and confused it his heartbreaking. Every thing we say to his father falls on deaf ears. What can we do?
