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Coppo

I’ve been told I’ve to join here 60 years old with autism , they say(psychiatrist/paychologist) I might be able to connect better with other autistic people.

I can talk to people at work but the dead same people if I see them outside of work I run into a shop, panic sets in, just need some friends as I have none. 

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  • Hello Coppo, welcome.

    Coppo said:
    they say(psychiatrist/paychologist) I might be able to connect better with other autistic people.

    I guess a good first question is what do you want to do? Post diagnosis I took on board some of my therapists advice and some I elected to ignore as it didn't feel right to me.

    If you want to connect then we typically do so on the discussion threads of the forum - there are some serious ones and plenty of frivolous ones so contribute as much as you want when you want and you will be very welcome.

    If you are after more one-to-one conversations then there is also private messaging on the site but most accounts are setup be default for you to need to send a friend request and be accepted before you can send messages that way.

    Coppo said:
    just need some friends as I have none. 

    Making friends is a particularly common problem for older autists as making friends in general gets harder as you get older and being autistic seems to drive people away because we seem "off" to the non autists - our social skills are often poor and we rarely go out of our way to develop these as the process is quite painful.

    Do you feel that you want friends or do you fell that you should have friends? Many on here have reached the conclusion that friends are an expectaion of the non autistic majority and many don't bother with them.

    That's enough from me for a first response - let us know how we can help.

    You are amongst kin now, but we are probably as dysfunctional as you so please be patient with us.

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  • Hello Coppo, welcome.

    Coppo said:
    they say(psychiatrist/paychologist) I might be able to connect better with other autistic people.

    I guess a good first question is what do you want to do? Post diagnosis I took on board some of my therapists advice and some I elected to ignore as it didn't feel right to me.

    If you want to connect then we typically do so on the discussion threads of the forum - there are some serious ones and plenty of frivolous ones so contribute as much as you want when you want and you will be very welcome.

    If you are after more one-to-one conversations then there is also private messaging on the site but most accounts are setup be default for you to need to send a friend request and be accepted before you can send messages that way.

    Coppo said:
    just need some friends as I have none. 

    Making friends is a particularly common problem for older autists as making friends in general gets harder as you get older and being autistic seems to drive people away because we seem "off" to the non autists - our social skills are often poor and we rarely go out of our way to develop these as the process is quite painful.

    Do you feel that you want friends or do you fell that you should have friends? Many on here have reached the conclusion that friends are an expectaion of the non autistic majority and many don't bother with them.

    That's enough from me for a first response - let us know how we can help.

    You are amongst kin now, but we are probably as dysfunctional as you so please be patient with us.

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