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This is all so new to me, hello

deut18

Hello, 

I have just joined the society so hello to you all.

For the last 36 years of my life (I am 36) I have always knew I was different to everyone else I knew, I was always told I was different and at times I even had it as a kind of abuse when I was a teenager. I was always just told I done things differently. It's only in the last 5 month that I heard about the condition Aspergers and even though I am undiagnosed I am 99.9 certain and so are others than I have spoken to that I have Aspergers. 

It explains so much about my life, why I do things, why I don't do things, how I struggle and how I excel at some things. 

I joined here to speak to people who know about it and understand and to be honest it feels like a huge weight off my shoulders knwoing there are others who may be similar to myself.

So hello to you all and hope to speak to some of you in the near future.

G 

  • Hi, welcome to the club. I feel obliged to warn you though, if you recieve a positive diagnosis, while it will feel enlightening for the first few months, its typical to fall into a minor depressed state of mind when you begin to realise the full implications of a diagnosis. That is a situation for life. It will not go away, that you will forever be hindered with these limitations.

    The important thing to remember at this stage is to not live up to anyones expectations, do not allow yourself to be defined by your diagnosis. After a month or so, I managed to use my diagnosis to review how I viewed the world, that it was ok to make mistakes or do strange things to amuse myself (the odd bit of flapping always gets a few strange glances). After about 6 months, I realised I'd overcome nearly all the issues I'd thought I'd never be able to deal with during that month of depression.

    Theres been others within my old community who had also recieved a diagnosis, been ecstatic for a few months then falled into the same sad mindset. Its important to talk to others should you enter this stage and know that others have faced the same problems, that it can be overcome and you can live your life happily with the aid of a diagnosis.

    Best of luck.

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    I am glad to see someone else who is excited by having a diagnosis. :-) I'm 56 and got diagnosed 2 months ago. So far i have found it thrilling to get a mass of insight into myself and other aspies and also into the way NT people work.

  • Thanks, I hope so to and I am really excited about it, finding things out about myself feels so good, I'm also very excited to find out what other people with Aspergers go through in life, it's fascinating .. 

  • Welcome to the discussion forum deut18. There's a fair few of us late diagnosed around so you should be able to find answers here.