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Hi my name is Lindsay from Blackburn England, I am 53 and have no friends, I work in a care home doing activities for the elderly, I am a keen runner and run and bike nearly every day, i have 3 children, an axolotl, 2 dogs and a hamster, I have run the London marathon twice which I would say is m6 second biggest achievement after my children. I get so lonely at times, my daughter is my friend and she also struggles socially.

Would love to talk to someone.

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  • Hi Lidsay from Blackburn.  

    I'm sorry that you have no friends - it seems to be a common thing with autistic people.

    I'm happy to chat.  Easier to chat with other autistics than neurotypical people in my experience... 

    Confident that one of the groups "moderators" will post you a link to the National Autistic Society online resources on the topic I won't steal their thunder other than to say there is a link in the advice and guidance part of the website.

    No doubt others will come up with suggestions as to how to make friends and all that sort of stuff.

    For my ten penneth I think it possible to generate friendships via this group - hehe although I have yet to work out how to populate that part of my engagement with it except by generating and engaging with threads in the general chat rooms!  That said after a while of doing so I have got a sense of who individual users are and how they and I engage with the group.

    Overall this group is a safe place in my experience (past 3 years or so of dipping in and out - currently nearly a daily engagement) , however some measure of reserve, confidentiality and consideration is wise perhaps.

    It's an especially good way of learning about oneself I have found too.  It can sometimes be necessary to be a friend to oneself too if that makes sense?   This seems to be a trick for mutual friendships too.  :-)

    Anyway... I live in the East Midlands with "my family and other animals" ( :-) )  I'm in my early 60s 

    Physical exercise beyond just carting my frame and innards and brain about has played a significant role in my life too - I did a lot of cycling and martial arts when younger.  Working with people and movement has been a big bit of my working life too :-) 

    Doing activities with people sounds like a fun way to spend a working life!  

    What sort of activities do the people you work with most enjoy and engage with I wonder?  Hehe, Dame Vera Lynn songs still popular or have the generations moved on to Cliff Richard and maybe even the Rolling Stones now?

    If you've a topic that you especially want to talk about you might start another thread?   Or "dip your toe" in joining another.  It can be stimulating and it can be interesting to get an idea of both what sorts of people/the individuals themselves are here and the communication styles and skills to be found here.

    All the best!

  • in reply to Phased

    Thank you so much for the reply, I really do struggle socially, i try to make friends but they find me immature and they don’t get me, I’m always left out of conversations and get together.

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