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Hello & anyone else struggling?

Experiment626

Hello, I'm new to this community forum, I'm deaf & 33 years old, I wanted to have some kind of form reassurances & know I'm not alone in this struggle

I've recently been diagnosed, I told my workplace ages ago cos I noticed I was struggling more than normal & waited for assessment but it was clear that my boss did not believe I was autistic & thinks I'm making it up, had a meeting with her about 3 incidents which I knew was one staff member complaining about me & my boss wanted the "old" me back aka a pushover/easy to handle & she dismissed the fact that I was still waiting for assessment. This made me start to feel anxious because it felt like she was building a case to dismiss me from my job, I felt forced so I went private & got diagnosed & gave her evidence. However she kept trying to build a case to dismiss me, thankfully I've handed in my notice before she could do that, I'm happy to be leaving this job cos it doesn't suit me anymore. Oh also my manage is autistic aware, deaf aware, I work as support worker & we have more than one client that are autistic themselves & fully deaf. Quite the conundrum.

Also because I've been recently diagnosed, I feel like the things I used to tolerate have dropped, making me feel like I'm "more autistic" but I'm worried about my family & possible friends thinking I'm "putting one on" making it up.

Has anyone experienced this? 

Plus I want to make friends as well 

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  • Hello

    Welcome to the community forum

    I've been struggling recently as I try to rebuild my life by going to my group occasionally, attending church events and occasionally delivering the community magazine to 10 houses.

     I find it frustrating that people don't understand when I try to explain a million times what I'm doing these days. That's why I carry a copy of the upcoming meetings leaflet. A few days later repeat the cycle. :(

    The good people asked me Are you working? They apologise when I say I don't want to talk about it. 

    The bad people keep on banging on and on, asking me questions like Are you working? How do you support yourself? 

    I'd ended up leaving 6 years ago, colleagues weren't very nice people (some got kids and promoted); management did nothing about it, and I got very ill.  Notice was handled badly. They tried to beg me to return and I said no. I'd written to head office and the standard response was that they wanted the names of those who did this.

    Too late. 

    I'd witnessed another person who was getting bullied as she was leaving. Also, another person who was leaving as well to do paramedic science. 

    I'd read that you like photography as well. 

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  • Hello

    Welcome to the community forum

    I've been struggling recently as I try to rebuild my life by going to my group occasionally, attending church events and occasionally delivering the community magazine to 10 houses.

     I find it frustrating that people don't understand when I try to explain a million times what I'm doing these days. That's why I carry a copy of the upcoming meetings leaflet. A few days later repeat the cycle. :(

    The good people asked me Are you working? They apologise when I say I don't want to talk about it. 

    The bad people keep on banging on and on, asking me questions like Are you working? How do you support yourself? 

    I'd ended up leaving 6 years ago, colleagues weren't very nice people (some got kids and promoted); management did nothing about it, and I got very ill.  Notice was handled badly. They tried to beg me to return and I said no. I'd written to head office and the standard response was that they wanted the names of those who did this.

    Too late. 

    I'd witnessed another person who was getting bullied as she was leaving. Also, another person who was leaving as well to do paramedic science. 

    I'd read that you like photography as well. 

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  • in reply to Zengarden🕉

    That's good that you're trying to rebuild your life, it does take time which can be frustrating because want an easy quick fix but that's not the case at all. 

    I understand your frustration of having to repeat yourself when no one is really listening/paying attention & that can be very upsetting. 

    Blimey! Your workplace was not pleasant at all! It's not fun when it affects you a lot especially when it burns you out. That's not nice to witness but good thing that the person who was being bullied left. Yeah I understand it being too late to report what was going on & seeing no point in that because sometimes they don't really improve the workplace or becomes even more toxic. 

    Yes I do like photography! It's been a long time so I'm trying to get back into it but do wish I could go a place where I can use the darkroom cos that's the best/fun part of film photography. Also to learn digital photography as well :)