Hi
My S is autistic and was diagnosed later at 12 yo. He does not has an EHCP.
My S is in Y10 and after spending most of Y9 in detention, isolation, fixed term exclusions and temporary alternative placements (3months) he is now refusing to do any work in lessons. Unless the teacher isn't a "DH" or its a subject that is "alright".
My son is a boy of few words, relating to feelings, special interest however are another matter 
On the rare occassions he does speak of how he feels, he describes himself as 'stupid' 'a DH' 'everyone hates him' and this is also with a lot of screaming and crying. He has struggled with MH and attended talking therapy (really helps) .
I guess what I'm asking for is help and advice. The school keep setting him detentions. Some for forgetting a pencil, some for refusing to do the work. Some for distracting other students. I am scared that this amount of pressure is going to cause another year of stress and worry. He has had 8 detentions in the 2 1/2 weeks back. He says he doesn't understand the work, the teachers don't care I don't care and he's bored.
My S refuses SEN. The schools SEN department is virtually non existent. There main question in a meeting was does he have friends. He has lots of friends, has had a GF (briefly) interacts with others all the time. His main struggle from what I can see is understanding instructions, following along with instructions, motivation to do HW (if I sit with him he can do it), listening to the whole sentence. He has very little self esteem in his ability.
Should I be looking for another school? Should I homeschool?- last resort as Im not sure our relationship could handle this. Should I send him to college?
Ive asked hiim what he wants and he doesnt no. He avoids talking to me about anything or tells me Im wrong about everything I suggest.
I should also note that he is on a waiting list for an ADHD assessment as well.
If anyone has been in a similar situation or has any knowledge of the school system please give me any advice you can. I feel completely in the dark, deflated and apprehensive of another year like the last one.
Thank you.
