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nicw3

Evening everybody. My name is nic and im a single mum to 3 fabulous children. I will try and keep this as short as poss. For some time I have noticed my sons behaviour as being unusual. This is the part where I wont bore you all for the past 5 years ive tried to get school and gps on bored. Anyway since nov last year things have dramatically and rapidly declined. After several exclusions from school, gp visits my 10 year old son tried to strangle himself when he was admitted to hospital we finally saw a camhs dr!!!!! In may the camhs dr said he believes my son has some sort of a s d and it could be aspergers. My  son suffers from extremely angry aggressive and violent outbursts. Today I have found out that school will not take him back in September and he has been refered to a pru! I asked the question today of hes getting support but where do i get support from?? How do I protect myself and my other 2 children from these outburts of violence?? How do I explain to my son hes not going back to his normal school in sept?? Whilst im awaiting camhs and a possible diagnosis which will take 7 months, how do we get support at home?? Feel ive been dropped with a big bombshell and no support. Please can anyone advise or chat to me?? Also I work part time and don't know my legal rights for time off to support my son? Thanks

  • There may be a parents group in your area, either an independent or a branch of NAS. They function for parents of autistic children, and provide resources and advice, and opportunities to meet and chat to other parents. They also provide training courses on how to cope.

    NAS website Home and Community pages have a little pink map of Britain in one corner, where you can search for services in your area. Its not perfect as it sometimes comes up with long lists starting London when you've asked for Truro or Cromarty, but if you patiently scan down the lists you can usually find someting.

    Alternatively search autism support in your town or county on Google.

    The only downside of parents groups is they all talk agitatedly about living with autistic kids - you can get desperate for an uncomplicated chat about knittting or flower arranging.

  • then in a weeks time he starts to talk to us nicely but thats how we deal with the situation, have you heard of the carers centre  , contact a family and also try and get help from the family fund  its a grant for stuff you might need for the home for your son . sorry i dont know anything about part time work as im a single parent but good luck 

  • hi nic . my daughter who had emotional problems as she was bullied at secondary school went to a PRU after I couldnt afford to pay for exams as I homeschooled 3 of my children. CAMHS IThink should have put something in place for your son to be taught at home in the mean time or had a tutor brought to your door but as it is July they might have just left it because it near the 6 weeks hols. I am not trying to put you on a downer but my daughter became a different person in the  year she was there for the worse , just keep an eye on him and dont let the teachers say that everything is ok as I found out that my daughter thought it was a big playground for doing whatever she liked in there. My son who we think is autistic has them out bursts of violent abusive attacks on us , you dont really get any help really except respite care from social services thats if they decide its bad enough that was my personal experience. my son always use to attack my other son so i ended up taking everything out of his room and i use to sleep in the next room so if he attacked my other son i would just take him out of that situation . even to this day my son still is abusive he is now 22 we just ignore him in other words let it go over your head