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This is all new to me

Barneymoane

Hi guys, I feel a bit lost…

my diagnosis hasn’t come as a surprise, but it’s definitely come with some weight. I have been always known since primary school that my only difficulty was not just Dyslexia. My struggles stretched further than just academic, it was my social life and they was things made me feel. After suffering with crippling anxiety and depression for the past 8 years and just always putting it down to life’s struggles and traumas, the diagnosis has shone some more light on why I have been struggling like this. 
I was diagnosed Friday just gone (29.08.25) and since then I’ve been really struggling to pull together, feeling very down and burnt out. It’s just going around and around in my head that I wish I knew earlier as I believe It could have helped me navigate the past decade, and understand my feelings and emotions. 

im really not sure what kind of advice/responses I am looking for as I don’t even know where to start. But please share your adult diagnosis story’s and how it made you feel, help me feel like I’m not the only one that felt lost at the beginning. 

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  • I was diagnosed in the last 2 years. I know what you mean about the 'everything' stuff.

    It is normal to go through a cycle of anger, grief and despair not necessarily in that order. It will take time to fully process this diagnosis and the best advice based on my experience is be kind to yourself. 

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  • I was diagnosed in the last 2 years. I know what you mean about the 'everything' stuff.

    It is normal to go through a cycle of anger, grief and despair not necessarily in that order. It will take time to fully process this diagnosis and the best advice based on my experience is be kind to yourself. 

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  • in reply to Mr T

    I completely concur with this analysis.  There are some similarities with The Kübler-Ross Change Model which outlines five emotional stages—Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, and Acceptance—a model of what people typically go through when facing significant change,

    I would suggest that the "bargaining" part of this may be the reasonable adjustments that one seeks from employer and also the bargaining that one does with oneself in order to adjust ones own personal expectations which may need to be changed in the light of the insight one starts to develop.  

    The somewhat unfortunate part is that ideally one would have acceptance in order to deal with the other factors. 

    Realistically one needs to go thro' them in order to reach acceptance - both of oneself and from others.

    I concur completely therefore with the need to be kind to oneself in this process.  I would also add that one needs to be kind to others too.  Be kind to yourself and others especially when you identify that you have not done so.