Recently diagnosed 47 year old

Diagnosed last year at 53, been in burnout for a year unable to do my job as a nurse practitioner and got dismissed last week. Currently trying so hard to climb out of a very black hole several recent life events and past trauma have put me in. Ive read burnout upon late diagnosis is a common thing...I guess its a bit like staying strong in a crisis until you reach safety and then crying. You suddenly scrutinise past events under an AuDHD lense. Im a person who needs to know why things happen in order to process. I too would welcome advice as my local mental health services are not neurodiverse aware. Xx

Hello. I'm sorry about your job. Losing it is stressful which won't help.

I had a kind of crisis that led to therapy and onto a diagnosis. So the other way around. But the realisation I screwed up big chunks of my life, plus had the wrong priorities and spent too much just surviving, has been very hard to take.

Anyway good luck.

It is all in your mind. If you are not already, stop pushing yourself or expecting to be better, relax, and I think it will come.

A nice cup of tea always helps.

Does coffee count? Can't abide tea  its got to the point all the worse things that I worried so much about like losing my job have happened and ive fought for so long to succeedat life and be the best nurse/mum/nanna  i could be ive got nothing left in me. Ive had to move in with my mum, my beloved dog has been seized by the police and im fighting to get him back ...for 4 months (he's a shar pei and my absolute rock). I survived a narcissistic dv relationship because of my dog and the terror of all these police taking my dog has traumatised me...he will just think ive abandoned him and he's an old boy who has never been apart from me. Ive never been in trouble in my life and this has all destroyed me xx

Does coffee count? Can't abide tea  its got to the point all the worse things that I worried so much about like losing my job have happened and ive fought for so long to succeedat life and be the best nurse/mum/nanna  i could be ive got nothing left in me. Ive had to move in with my mum, my beloved dog has been seized by the police and im fighting to get him back ...for 4 months (he's a shar pei and my absolute rock). I survived a narcissistic dv relationship because of my dog and the terror of all these police taking my dog has traumatised me...he will just think ive abandoned him and he's an old boy who has never been apart from me. Ive never been in trouble in my life and this has all destroyed me xx

Tea, particularly green tea, boosts dopamine. Coffee does it through caffeine which is not as good. Although some green tea can also contain loads of caffeine too.

Normal black tea will work. Both can dehydrate you a bit though, so make sure you keep hydrated.

Wanting to succeed too much puts a lot of pressure on you. I wanted it so much I ended up doing less well than others who worked less hard.

Be kinder to yourself. You did as well as anyone could have done in your shoes.

I'm sure people appreciated it.

I'm sorry about your dog. I assume they took it for a reason.