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Bo

Hello I am very new to this. My son Oliver was diagnosed with asd a month ago and it has been a bit of a roller coaster. He is only three but already has many challenging behaviours. One that I am particularly concerned about and needing some advice is throwing. He throws anything he can over the fence, out the window, down the stairs and across the room. We have gone through many plates, and bowels and he has broken a lot of our ornaments as well as my two other children's things. We have put up signs to show that there is no throwing and we have also tried using a place that he needs to go when he does throw eg in his room or on the step. We do not call it the naughty step because he does not know what it means. He has no idea of facial expressions or the different tone of voice we use and we are running out of ideas. Oliver has good communication and can tell us to a degree what he wants but he does not understand a lot that we say to him. Pleaase any advice would be great.

thanks 

  • Thank you for your comments. Oliver has always thrown things and it started with his food if his spoon touched his bowl. This was before he was diagnosed. it only lasted for a very little time. He seems to go in cycles with his behaviours at the moment it is throwing and biting. He loves seeing things in the air and once he has whatever he wants to throw in his head it must be thrown. I am going to try and get him to throw lots of soft balls into a box and for now all bedrooms are being locked. I do remember when he was a toddler he picked up the washing bin at the top of the stairs and threw it he has always been very strong! He has started going to preschool and I wonder if this has anything to do with it. He woke up in the night last week refusing to go back to sleep and kept saying he does not like preschool. I have been told about an early bird course to go on however my husband is a lorry driver and his hrs are never the same, we have two ther children and we just don't have a wat of doing it as it is once a week for 12 weeks and it helps with behaviours such as throwing. We are struggling to get other help as he is so young. 

  • "Have you considered having a place where he is able to throw things?"

    I was thinking something similar.  Would a basketball hoop with accompanying balls be suitable?  Or skittles to be aimed at and knocked over?  Would little beanbags be safer projectiles?

    I have Asperger's.  I vaguely remember a very few occasions, when I was little, when I would obsessively throw an object up in the air, repeatedly.  One such object was a cuddly toy, because I wanted to see that toy briefly existing without it touching anything else.  Another object on another occasion was a toy truck of some sort, and I remember getting told off for being naughty, having the toy taken from me, and I ended up in some sort of a tantrum state about it.  I think, again, I wanted to watch it existing in mid-air, without it touching anything else, though I can only very, very vaguely remember that.

    Perhaps, if the reason for his obsession with throwing can be discovered, it might lead to a way to safely accommodate his throwing.

  • Hi, 

    Have you considered having a place where he is able to throw things? After our son destroyed our dining table and numerous items of clothing we decided to section a small corner of our living room off and called it his "calm corner" he has a selection of items he can chew (a pencil, selection of fabric, old toys etc) fully supervised.  It has helped alot to keep other things intact around the home as he jniws he has his own place to chew and calm down

  • Hi Bo! I am also new to the forums here!, my son is also called Oliver (nice name choice!) he was diagnosed last year at the age of 3, throwing is not one of the behaviours he uses so I cant really give any advice other than your doing fine!.

    What kind of assistance / support have you been able to get / been offered since being diagnosed? I dont know what contact you have had with local authorities etc or progress made as it differs from county.