Hi guys. I’ve just joined the forums as I have been diagnosed with autism very recently and was advised to come here so I’m getting to know my way around the site. Not gonna lie I’m very nervous haha.
Little bit about me. I have a huge interest in video games (mainly Nintendo), I also like to make random crafty things, listen to music and spend time in quiet outdoor spaces and listen to the sounds of nature.
Hope to chat again soon!
Hi and welcome! I'm new here too and so far found others to be helpful, kind and understanding which is not always easy to find elsewhere! I'm not a gamer but I love the outdoors and the sounds of nature. Have you ever heard a wasp nest purring? Weird one I know but it's one of my favourite sounds, they do it late in the evenings when it's hot.
Hi there, thank you for your reply. Yeah I’m still getting used to being here lol. I haven’t heard of wasp nest purring as all. When I see a wasp I get so scared in case I get stung and that is so painful for me but I will have to listen to the purring somewhere now I’m intrigued. I always like listening to waterfalls and rain/thunderstorms and a crackling fireplace when needed. I also find some particular games relaxing with nature sounds too.
I think it's really a really primal thing, we didn't evolve in houses with soundproofing but were surrounded by the sounds of nature. Once I got my head around being diagnosed as autistic I found it a really positive thing, it did take me a while to process though! Also it took me a while before I was confident to just tell people I'm autistic.
Thank you for being understanding. I’m not a parent so I won’t know what being a parent is like. But with my mum I think she has realised over the years about autism and got a better understanding of it. But I think what really strained our relationship was her older sister who was a real bully to me and well everyone but I got the brunt because I was different and didn’t defend her or do what she wanted. So I could tell her sister was words I can’t use in public or in my mind even. But she was a right old narcissistic bully who just didn’t get happy unless she bullied someone, and if someone wouldn’t obey her then she would be worse than on ogre! But no one else could see that and no matter how many times I tried to explain no one would listen to me and they would all obey her but I wouldn’t, I would do anything to avoid her, even if it meant living near a volcano or something. Well long story short she started being horrible to her mum (my nan) and my mum and the younger sister and that’s when everyone realised how I was right! Guess I have the last laugh but that’s not the point, if they had, or if my mum had at least listen to me, then maybe I wouldn’t be in such a traumatic mess. I’ve also noticed when people I don’t even know aren’t very nice because I just get that sense of unease. Suppose people would say it’s like an aura of negative vibes maybe. I have quite a few examples but I feel the one I shared was the biggest deal for me.
I think that it's true that although autistic people can struggle with social things many have a very finely tuned ability to pick up on subtle inconsistencies, emotional undertones, or hidden agendas, even if they struggle with typical social reciprocity. I can tell straight away if I don't like someone. It sounds like you've had a tough time with the bulling which is in no way your fault, it's understandable that it still causes you problems. Maybe others can help as I'm sure you're not alone here being bullied! It's really tough being a parent and all parents make mistakes. Does your mum understand autism or is this all new to her too? Your doing a good job of talking about this, I didn't tell anyone about my problems for many many years and I wish I had.
That does make sense actually. My mum always passes comment on how well I can hear things. It’s comes with its advantages and disadvantages I guess. As with people I have found like I can tell when someone isn’t as nice as they come across or I can tell I’m not going to gel with them but I have never had this experience with anyone I feel I will trust and like if that makes sense? It’s like I just naturally tune in on the negatives. Like do the negatives follow me around or do I just naturally seek it out? Just with my mum was more caring and understanding when I was going through the bullying and moving schools and exams. Like I can’t seem to move on from the past. Sorry if that has gone off topic
That does make sense actually. My mum always passes comment on how well I can hear things. It’s comes with its advantages and disadvantages I guess. As with people I have found like I can tell when someone isn’t as nice as they come across or I can tell I’m not going to gel with them but I have never had this experience with anyone I feel I will trust and like if that makes sense? It’s like I just naturally tune in on the negatives. Like do the negatives follow me around or do I just naturally seek it out? Just with my mum was more caring and understanding when I was going through the bullying and moving schools and exams. Like I can’t seem to move on from the past. Sorry if that has gone off topic
Thank you for being understanding. I’m not a parent so I won’t know what being a parent is like. But with my mum I think she has realised over the years about autism and got a better understanding of it. But I think what really strained our relationship was her older sister who was a real bully to me and well everyone but I got the brunt because I was different and didn’t defend her or do what she wanted. So I could tell her sister was words I can’t use in public or in my mind even. But she was a right old narcissistic bully who just didn’t get happy unless she bullied someone, and if someone wouldn’t obey her then she would be worse than on ogre! But no one else could see that and no matter how many times I tried to explain no one would listen to me and they would all obey her but I wouldn’t, I would do anything to avoid her, even if it meant living near a volcano or something. Well long story short she started being horrible to her mum (my nan) and my mum and the younger sister and that’s when everyone realised how I was right! Guess I have the last laugh but that’s not the point, if they had, or if my mum had at least listen to me, then maybe I wouldn’t be in such a traumatic mess. I’ve also noticed when people I don’t even know aren’t very nice because I just get that sense of unease. Suppose people would say it’s like an aura of negative vibes maybe. I have quite a few examples but I feel the one I shared was the biggest deal for me.
I think that it's true that although autistic people can struggle with social things many have a very finely tuned ability to pick up on subtle inconsistencies, emotional undertones, or hidden agendas, even if they struggle with typical social reciprocity. I can tell straight away if I don't like someone. It sounds like you've had a tough time with the bulling which is in no way your fault, it's understandable that it still causes you problems. Maybe others can help as I'm sure you're not alone here being bullied! It's really tough being a parent and all parents make mistakes. Does your mum understand autism or is this all new to her too? Your doing a good job of talking about this, I didn't tell anyone about my problems for many many years and I wish I had.
