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What are the emotions you are having?
Mine were related to reprocessing the past. Which caused a sense of loss and sadness when I thought some things might not have had to turn out the way they have. It is slowly getting better.

In terms of identity it is disorientating, but you are still you, You can just be kinder to yourself with some justification.

If you don't want to talk about things, then write it all down.
Over the last 3 months I have written a pile of paper about 1cm thick. There is duplication, but it is being refined each time and it has clarified my thoughts. My views have swung around a bit too as I try to process various things. I have also remembered things and written them down so they seem to be being filed away in my head now.

A good way to relax if you don't want to walk is just closing your eyes and breathing if you can find somewhere quiet. Breathe in deeply, then blow out like you are blowing through a straw (to stop you hyperventilating). A few breaths (half a dozen) will calm you. With your eyes closed and sitting somewhere quiet, a few minutes will help. Don't sit at a desk too long without moving or standing up. I try to stand up every 30 mins or so.

Use post it notes, or a pad to write down your tasks, then if if you step away you don't need to remember them, so you can relax.

If people ask for something new and you can't say no, just note them down, but try not to think about them.

Remember, the world will not end if you don't drop everything and do them. I used to pressure myself too much (up till a few months ago) and hence feel very stressed, but the stress and expectation was all coming from me. It was not even my company yet I treated it like everything depended on me. It is part of the cognitive distortions I struggle with.

What are the emotions you are having?
Mine were related to reprocessing the past. Which caused a sense of loss and sadness when I thought some things might not have had to turn out the way they have. It is slowly getting better.

In terms of identity it is disorientating, but you are still you, You can just be kinder to yourself with some justification.

If you don't want to talk about things, then write it all down.
Over the last 3 months I have written a pile of paper about 1cm thick. There is duplication, but it is being refined each time and it has clarified my thoughts. My views have swung around a bit too as I try to process various things. I have also remembered things and written them down so they seem to be being filed away in my head now.

A good way to relax if you don't want to walk is just closing your eyes and breathing if you can find somewhere quiet. Breathe in deeply, then blow out like you are blowing through a straw (to stop you hyperventilating). A few breaths (half a dozen) will calm you. With your eyes closed and sitting somewhere quiet, a few minutes will help. Don't sit at a desk too long without moving or standing up. I try to stand up every 30 mins or so.

Use post it notes, or a pad to write down your tasks, then if if you step away you don't need to remember them, so you can relax.

If people ask for something new and you can't say no, just note them down, but try not to think about them.

Remember, the world will not end if you don't drop everything and do them. I used to pressure myself too much (up till a few months ago) and hence feel very stressed, but the stress and expectation was all coming from me. It was not even my company yet I treated it like everything depended on me. It is part of the cognitive distortions I struggle with.

Hi thank you for this reply

I totally agree. The world will not end. It’s just in the moment it is very difficult to remember that. I have a lot to work on and I think I am very slowly getting there. I’m not sure but people have said some positive things recently so I’m taking that. 

I love writing things down. If I need to speak to my boss about how I am feeling then very often I end up in her offie whilst she is working and she gives me pen and paper and I write EVERYTHING down. It’s usually 3-4 sides of A4 but at least I’ve managed to say everything I want and then it usually helps to start the conversation and I find it easy to talk then and can have a smooth conversation with her. 

I do write my tasks down as I have so much to remember and not enough brain space. I try and prioritise and put some tasks to the side so I can focus on myself and what I need to do for myself but in my workplace if it’s not done then you get constantly asked time and time again to the point where its just easier to do the task and get it done often meaning pushing other things aside. There has been occasions where I have started something for myself and then its still there unfinished 2 weeks later because every time I try and do something, someone comes along with something else and then I don’t get time to revisit the original task again.