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My grandaughter

LJW72.

Hi.  Just joined the group and trying to navigate the site but looks great so far.  
I am specifically looking for groups of high functioning, autistic teens who are confused about their sexual  orientation.  It’s a difficult time for these young people and I would love to know if there are any meeting places for groups of teens to get together and talk in a safe place about their feelings etc.  My granddaughter, who is 17,   is very uncomfortable with sexual conversations, jokes etc., and we are wondering if there were any places where asexual, trans, queer people of all orientations can meet.

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  • Hi and welcome. I'm a woman in my sixties on the spectrum.

    I was also uncomfortable about sexual conversations and jokes when I was 17, and for many years after!  Also I would have been horrified to think that my grandparent was trying to find somewhere for me to talk about it - as far as I was concerned it was a private thing to be discussed only with the partner of my choosing, and healthcare professionals if I had any sexual health questions. I don't want to put you off posting here and I'm sure you are trying to help, but I just want to point out that you need to make sure that this is what she wants, not just what you think she needs. Also as she is under 18, you will need to ensure that any groups she attends are safe. Once she does turn 18 she can register on this site if she wishes and ask any questions she wants.

  • in reply to Lotus

    Hi.  Thank you for your reply.

    i have a very special relationship with my grandaughter since birth.  We live in the same house and  I take care of the day to day caring for her and her younger brother, while my daughter works and takes care of things n the  evening.  We are an exceptionally open family who talk about everything and are not closed up when it comes to talking about sex.  My daughter talks to my grandaughter about that kind of thing and I join in when appropriate.   We laugh lots about it all too.  I am not a typical grandma as we are all artists and my grandaughter is at college, experiencing positive attention from both sexes which she has never had before.  She was bullied relentlessly at every school and is now finding  real friends and a wonderful life after much effort from herself and her mum and I.  It has taken years to get her this far with her confidence etc. She now has the opportunity of joining  a National music organisation, because of her musical talents and she is more than excited to start this new phase of her life.  She would trust her mum if she found a group she could go to where other autistic kids meet and would expect her mum to go to her with any suggestions to build her confidence.  They are merely suggestions, which my grandaughter has the ultimate decision in naturally.    I said I would look into it as my daughter works full time and here we are.  When we have suitable information, we will tell my grandaughter and she will decide if she does or does not want to join.  She feels no pressure to decide either way.  

  • in reply to LJW72.

    Thank you for sharing, it sounds like your granddaughter has a lovely supportive family and I'm glad things are going positively for her. I wish her well for the future.

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