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Hello I'm new to the site

kat14

My 12 yr old ds has Asperger's symdrome and is becoming very challenging in his behaviour.

Over the easter break he spent the holiday with me (me and his dad split up almost 3 years ago we are both with new partners and we both have had 2 new babies).. As my ex's partner couldn't cope with my DS,he did go back home only to come back a few hours later because of an agruement with his dad or his dad's partner or her son.

My 12 yr old ds recently stole £50 0f his grandad (as I live with my dad,my partner and new baby Ds) which he did return he only spent £2 off it.. My ex and myself were off course was ashamed,angry and upset that he could do that sort of thing especially to family,although my dad was upset it happened he never punished my ds but instead gave him a fiver to me this seems like a reward for bad behaviour. But then the behaviour got worse which ended up with my son being kicked out of his home by my ex and his partner (as my ex's partner said to him it's either Ds goes or I do and take your daughter and my  son with me, my ex choose them and kicked my son out)...

My 12 yr old Ds was also caught stealing at school from the canteen too through this week.

I am lost to what to do at the moment, i do feel there are more issues going on with my ds and we do talk but he doesn't open up .

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  • Hi Kat

    In some areas, the early intervention teams at Children's Social Care can help with providing a mentor or a specialist worker for teen's that are at risk of taking the wrong path.  I'm not saying this will or is happening to your son but sometimes having a third party involved that is just their for your child's voice to be heard, can be what they need.  You could also speak to his school to see if they can provide any help.  It maybe that the new babies/new partners etc have unsettled him.  I'm guessing he may have moved to high school too in September?  My own daughter's behaviour (13) rapidly declined last year when we moved house and she had to move school.  She because quite agressive for a while because she couldn't cope with the changes.  I hope you find some help but I'd speak up and ask sooner rather than later.

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  • Hi Kat

    In some areas, the early intervention teams at Children's Social Care can help with providing a mentor or a specialist worker for teen's that are at risk of taking the wrong path.  I'm not saying this will or is happening to your son but sometimes having a third party involved that is just their for your child's voice to be heard, can be what they need.  You could also speak to his school to see if they can provide any help.  It maybe that the new babies/new partners etc have unsettled him.  I'm guessing he may have moved to high school too in September?  My own daughter's behaviour (13) rapidly declined last year when we moved house and she had to move school.  She because quite agressive for a while because she couldn't cope with the changes.  I hope you find some help but I'd speak up and ask sooner rather than later.

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