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Kath123

Hello,

I've just joined this forum today. My seven year old boy has just been diagnosed with autism. I'm just trying to learn about it myself.

He's physically stimming all the time, does very little school work and doesn’t socialise with peers. He's in mainstream school and is very intelligent but finds school overwhelming and difficult. He is upset every day going in, but I have to leave him and quickly rush off to work, leaving him in tears. It's awful. 

I am trying to figure out how to help him. I'm not sure if there's any way to help his social skills and keep him calm. I've tried to get help from the GP but to no avail. 

Thanks very much.

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  • Welcome Kath123

    I am very sorry to hear that things are tough for both your child and yourself. I too did and still do find myself feeling upset at leaving my 10yr old son (also diagnosed autistic). I would say read as much as you can and learn as much as you can to help you understand. One thing that has really helped my son is having the same teaching assistant meeting us every morning at the same time, consistent routine has proven to lessen his anxiety somewhat. There are many things I have learned over a period of time but predictability, routine and giving plenty of warning for anything outside of that has helped. I have also learned not to push my son into telling me why he feels a certain way, very often he does not even know why so now I listen and always reassure him if he ever needs to talk or just vent about his day I am always there for him. 

    Are the school helpful Kath and do they provide any adjustments for your child in school? 
    Post diagnosis we are waiting for an autism outreach team to come and monitor my son in class for a while to make additional recommendations based on their observations. The school asked us if we would be interested in this after I submitted my sons post diagnosis report.

    His journey has set me off on my own  journey and I’m currently waiting for an assessment myself age 50.

    Nice to meet you 

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  • Welcome Kath123

    I am very sorry to hear that things are tough for both your child and yourself. I too did and still do find myself feeling upset at leaving my 10yr old son (also diagnosed autistic). I would say read as much as you can and learn as much as you can to help you understand. One thing that has really helped my son is having the same teaching assistant meeting us every morning at the same time, consistent routine has proven to lessen his anxiety somewhat. There are many things I have learned over a period of time but predictability, routine and giving plenty of warning for anything outside of that has helped. I have also learned not to push my son into telling me why he feels a certain way, very often he does not even know why so now I listen and always reassure him if he ever needs to talk or just vent about his day I am always there for him. 

    Are the school helpful Kath and do they provide any adjustments for your child in school? 
    Post diagnosis we are waiting for an autism outreach team to come and monitor my son in class for a while to make additional recommendations based on their observations. The school asked us if we would be interested in this after I submitted my sons post diagnosis report.

    His journey has set me off on my own  journey and I’m currently waiting for an assessment myself age 50.

    Nice to meet you 

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