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Recently Diagnosed

CinnamonAlien

Good afternoon All,

I was recently diagnosed at the age of 28, although this was a validating experience which answered so many questions, I feel this is the beginning of my journey of understanding.

I've never reached out l, but I thought it would be great to try make friends. A little bit about me , I'm lucky enough to work in mental health in a remote position . My special interest includes transfer within the football world, I spend hours on football manager exploring niche countries. I found out I'm 5% Finnish so been obsessed exploring Finland further. I've been enjoying WWE now it's on netflix. I enjoy reading philosophy and poetry although I neglect this . I wrote a poem which in hindsight, reflected my autism journey 

I want to bury 

What my mind unpacks

Hoping one day 

You'll find my treasure map.

I'm wondering what employment has been good for others? It's such a struggle and I'd love to hear your stories and also to inspire me to consider new career paths. I've dreamed of intelligence analyst, maybe financial crime ? But I value working remotely so much! Love to hear your thoughts .

I'm wondering what people do in their spare time and how they manage this ? I wish to be more productive, but if I'm not at work I'm decompressing and the cycle continues. Maybe we could share poems or ideas and create a project together!

Just a little introduction and my way to say Hi to this community. I look forward to any responses and any relationships which could be formed .

Take care all,!

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  • CinnamonAlien said:
    I'm wondering what employment has been good for others?

    I worked for 32 years as an IT techie and later manager so work has always been present and a challenge.

    One of my odd defence mechanisms to things that generate fear or anxiety is to stare them down and take them on so I have lived most of my life in a state of fairly constant stress. Not healthy.

    I wasn't aware I was autistic for 30 of those years so my approach was that if I was scared or something them the best way to deal with it is to go into it with both barrels and prove that I could do it. It worked but it always took its toll.

    Later on with management I found dealing with people challenging as I found it hard to read them so I started to educate myself on social interactions, body language and management techniques to the point I could handle them effectively.

    The good thing was that I became good at building and motivating teams and it became a speciality to fix teams that were performing really badly, but this sometimes involved cutting the dead wood in the team who could not perform.  I always privately struggled with the consequences of doing this.

    I retired early 2 years ago and now renovate properties in Brazil (long story) but also get to create social housing as well which is a great feeling, plus I mentor school leaving age autistic teens from some local schools to give them the sort of pracical advice that I wished I had beem given when I was young.

    Life these days is much more physical and yet relaxing but so much more fulfilling.

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    I feel I resonate with that, I was drawn to counselling I feel that helped me develop social skills . The part you shared in reference to Brazil sounds fascinating! I've always wanted to expand work into supporting other autistic people, it sounds so fulfilling! I'm glad to hear it sounds good at present 

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  • in reply to Iain

    I feel I resonate with that, I was drawn to counselling I feel that helped me develop social skills . The part you shared in reference to Brazil sounds fascinating! I've always wanted to expand work into supporting other autistic people, it sounds so fulfilling! I'm glad to hear it sounds good at present 

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