Just introducing myself

Hi 

I just got my diagnosis today at the ripe old age of 54......... High Functioning Autistic. It's felt quite weird actually - but I am going to use it to support my kids, the eldest has traits and I will now be seeking a referral for her.

I also need to consider what support I need from work.

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  • Congratulations on your diagnosis and welcome to the community!

    I should start by flagging that, during the period following a diagnosis, and besides feeling positive emotions such as relief, it can also be common for us  to experience a lot of emotional dysregulation. This can include working through a phase where we experience (backward-focused) anger, frustration, grieving and more. So please don't worry if you also experience this now or later on - it's normal! 

    The NAS has a great set of articles focused on "after diagnosis", including one covering how you might feel during the subsequent days / weeks / months. You might find them of interest and/or helpful:

    NAS - How you might feel after a diagnosis

    NAS - Other advice covering post-diagnosis including:

    • Talking about and disclosing your autism diagnosis
    • Emotional support for family members after a diagnosis
    • Formal support following an autism diagnosis
    • What can I do if formal support is not offered or is not enough

    In terms of what to do next, my advice at this point (ie soon after your diagnosis) would be to try and give yourself some time and breathing space to process and absorb everything that you've been through, and let your feelings settle down. For me, as for many others here, my diagnosis turned out to be much more of the start of a new journey, rather than a conclusion full of ready-made solutions for my various difficulties.  

    On employment, though, you might find this article helpful as a starting point:

    NAS - What support can I get at work as an autistic person?

    Therapy is often recommended after a diagnosis as a follow up action for your GP to arrange. You might find it helpful to borrow or buy this book, which includes discussion of various types of therapy and counselling, together with advice on choosing the right therapist or counsellor - all from an autistic person's viewpoint. Several of us here have found it very helpful, myself included:

    The Autistic Survival Guide to Therapy

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  • Congratulations on your diagnosis and welcome to the community!

    I should start by flagging that, during the period following a diagnosis, and besides feeling positive emotions such as relief, it can also be common for us  to experience a lot of emotional dysregulation. This can include working through a phase where we experience (backward-focused) anger, frustration, grieving and more. So please don't worry if you also experience this now or later on - it's normal! 

    The NAS has a great set of articles focused on "after diagnosis", including one covering how you might feel during the subsequent days / weeks / months. You might find them of interest and/or helpful:

    NAS - How you might feel after a diagnosis

    NAS - Other advice covering post-diagnosis including:

    • Talking about and disclosing your autism diagnosis
    • Emotional support for family members after a diagnosis
    • Formal support following an autism diagnosis
    • What can I do if formal support is not offered or is not enough

    In terms of what to do next, my advice at this point (ie soon after your diagnosis) would be to try and give yourself some time and breathing space to process and absorb everything that you've been through, and let your feelings settle down. For me, as for many others here, my diagnosis turned out to be much more of the start of a new journey, rather than a conclusion full of ready-made solutions for my various difficulties.  

    On employment, though, you might find this article helpful as a starting point:

    NAS - What support can I get at work as an autistic person?

    Therapy is often recommended after a diagnosis as a follow up action for your GP to arrange. You might find it helpful to borrow or buy this book, which includes discussion of various types of therapy and counselling, together with advice on choosing the right therapist or counsellor - all from an autistic person's viewpoint. Several of us here have found it very helpful, myself included:

    The Autistic Survival Guide to Therapy

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