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Teenage troubles

clix

Hello, I am the Grandmother of a 17 yr old Grandson. My daughter was a single parent of 2 when we did battle with the system to get him statemented. In all it took 7 long years. In our case they had us walking through hoops and kept putting the blame on my daughter for being single and then on my Grandson as badly behaved! However we now have another hurdle to overcome and hope somebody out there can give us some glimmer of hope. He is at the moment in further education and has come to a point where he no longer is interested. He has started to miss lessons and has become disinterested. He is at a stage where he no longer knows what he wants in life and as a result has become very argumentative and showing signs of aggression. Are there any other agencies out there that can help him ? We are fast becoming at a loss as to know what to do or how to help.

  • Thankyou for your reply. I will be ploughing through the documents you suggested before we attend our "meeting" on Monday. I feel that the powers that be are more than wiling to provide the earth for our special children but when they have their feathers are ruffled by some behavour that isnt in their comfort zone they all tend to run for the hills and tell us it is the child/young adult's fault so bye, bye be on your way. Well not this time my grandson suffered at the hands of incompetent teachers and professionals at middle and high school it has to stop now before it is too late for him. I am so grateful you took time to reply. Clix. 

  • Thankyou so much for your comments. I feel better knowing that he will be able to access some other agencies in the future, I am compiling information as we have been requested to attend a meeting with regard to the lack of attendance and they have decided that this is to be a final chance for him in college. What shocks me is that surely something should be put in place to prevent this, we have had no indication from them other than his failure to go to college! This is so familiar to us, everything bobs along great until my grandson has a blip and they all dissapear and start to throw the blame on him and impliment sanctions,in high school it was to deprive him of his laptop which only resulted in him being unable to do any course work!. Im cerrtain that it would be different if our children had physical dissabilities! Thanks for your time. It really means something to me to have a conversation with somebody who understands. I will let you know what happens on Monday. Clix.

  • Your grandson is entitled to educational support until 25: http://www.autismeye.com/overhaul-of-sen-confirms-education-to-25/

    Might be something useful here: http://www.autism.org.uk/living-with-autism/education-and-transition/further-and-higher-education/university-choosing-and-applying.aspx

    and here: http://www.autism.org.uk/working-with/education/education-professionals-in-fe-and-he/college-and-university-supporting-students-with-asperger-syndrome.aspx

    "How to access support

    The most useful point of contact for accessing support is usually the disability co-ordinator or officer. Each higher education establishment should have a service or centre for students with disabilities, where specialist staff help students to access the support they need.

    A person with Asperger syndrome who comes to college or university ideally should be in contact with the disability support service before they come, to ensure that all the support is in place. If they are already at college or university and have not yet been in contact with the service, it is worth encouraging the student to make contact with them as soon as possible. There is now also legal protection for students with disabilities."

    (There is more on the above link).  If despite support he cannot manage it may just mean he needs a break from education or could undertake distance learning from home instead.

    Perhaps if he has other things to focus on socially it might also enable him to maintain a more even mood and cope better at college.  You can search on the NAS website facility for what is in your area, perhaps there will be an Asperger's support or social club.

  • Hi Clix,

    My son is younge, he is 12, but he has really been through the mill and I had to battle really hard (as a single parent myself) to get help when my son developed depression and attempted suicide, and was self harming  He also became impossible to manage, and the school which is a specialist in the field of ASD were struggling to cope.  After a 6 month battle with the system and CAMHS , I gave up and liquidated his university fund and paid for him to see a private psychiatrist.  I chose really carefully and made sure the guy we saw was a specialist in Teens, ASD and mood disorders.  He was so helpful and diagnosed clinical depression, OCD and a couple of other things.  His report opened doors in the NHS.  My boy is now on Sertraline, and although it has only been for a couple of weeks I am getting glimpses of my boy.  The NHS psychiatrists will see him from now, and he is also having weekly counselling.  If u can get to Bristol I could give u his name.  

    Please don't underestimate the role u play aswell.  My so is only doing 4 mornings a week at school and he goes to my parents one or two afternoons a week to give me a break, and I am so very very greatful to them.  It gives me some sanity.

    I hope this helps a bit, x  Crazy