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recently diagnosed adult

mavu

Hi all

I'm in my fifties, male, and received my (level-1) ASD diagnosis a month ago. I was just reading the psychiatrist's letter to my GP, which prompted me to write here. The letter sounds somehow so.. pathological. I'm now trying to find those positive sides of autism, which I was reading about somewhere.

thanks

Wil

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  • Hello Wil,

    Welcome to the "one-month-in-and-WTAF" point of your journey.  Many here will be able to remember that feeling, but I think we all process it differently........but it does take time!

    At that point in my journey, I was all about "great, now I can solve all those problems that have dogged my life.....I just need to find people who can help me know what to do."  It was an optimistic part of my journey.....that reality soon beat-out-of-me!!

    I tried all manner of stuff.....some helped.....some did not......some did MORE harm than good (aka - be careful how and when you tell people, if that is what you are minded to do.)

    I am still up-and-down about blessing-v-curse......mainly settling on the....well, this is just how it is - and I've got this far - so no need to reinvent the wheel - just try to keep being better at me.

    You can choose to think about your diagnosis as "a pathology" if you want, or "as a superpower" if you want........or just file the new information in your head as "practically inconsequential, but helpful to know."

    I'm settled with the latter (ie practically inconsequential)....although it has provided me with a lasting sense of CALM.....ie things from my past and my current behaviours make sense now, are experienced by others (and this was a BIG relief,) and I have settled into knowing and understanding more about my fate.

    I hope you can find some calm along your journey and hope you will want to stick around with some of us to share.

    Nice to make your acquaintance.

    Number.

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  • Hello Wil,

    Welcome to the "one-month-in-and-WTAF" point of your journey.  Many here will be able to remember that feeling, but I think we all process it differently........but it does take time!

    At that point in my journey, I was all about "great, now I can solve all those problems that have dogged my life.....I just need to find people who can help me know what to do."  It was an optimistic part of my journey.....that reality soon beat-out-of-me!!

    I tried all manner of stuff.....some helped.....some did not......some did MORE harm than good (aka - be careful how and when you tell people, if that is what you are minded to do.)

    I am still up-and-down about blessing-v-curse......mainly settling on the....well, this is just how it is - and I've got this far - so no need to reinvent the wheel - just try to keep being better at me.

    You can choose to think about your diagnosis as "a pathology" if you want, or "as a superpower" if you want........or just file the new information in your head as "practically inconsequential, but helpful to know."

    I'm settled with the latter (ie practically inconsequential)....although it has provided me with a lasting sense of CALM.....ie things from my past and my current behaviours make sense now, are experienced by others (and this was a BIG relief,) and I have settled into knowing and understanding more about my fate.

    I hope you can find some calm along your journey and hope you will want to stick around with some of us to share.

    Nice to make your acquaintance.

    Number.

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