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Eryberrie

Hello! I'm a 30 year old woman and am awaiting a diagnosis of ASD. I'm new here and would like to meet and talk to people about experiences, esp how I deal with social situations and try and deal with the frustration of living in a world where I feel like an alien.

It seems as if everyone else in the world have a 'telepathic network' going on and I'm not part of it.  It's like there is a code and it's such hard work trying to get by in any social situation.  Family, work, school, college, extra curricular clubs, groups, etc.

I don't want to start waffling and ranting about myself because I do enough of that in life!  Please say hello if you like,

E

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  • Hi, I'm a 70 year old male who has, I think, experienced similar problems to those you describe.

    I worked all my life, got promotions and ended up running a team.

    I could do the work but managing other people was very difficult and I was glad to take early retirement.

    I had problems relating to and communicating with people all my life. Not especially serious but enough to make my life difficult and unpleasant. Relationships were difficult to make and sustain. I've been married for over 40 years, have an understanding wife and have two wonderful kids and two even more wonderful grandkids. But how I came to be married is a story in itself and we have had many difficulties along the way.

    How I coped was by focusing on and controlling what I needed to do and virtually ignoring everything else and not relying on anyone else. Excluding people except when absolutely necessary. I did that throughout my life. No one got too close. I was a puzzle to people. I lived my life in compartments that never really joined up. Other people's description, not mine. One even told me I was the most controlled person he had ever met.

    All the time I felt that I was living on a knife edge. Far from controlled, believe me.

    My point is that I coped. With difficulty and by doing what I described above but it worked. For me, anyway.

    I only very recently realised that the problems I've had all my life might have had something to do with autism and I've not been diagnosed. Not yet anyway. But I've tried the AQ-10 test on here and a similar test on the Embarrassing Bodies website and the indications are that I am on the spectrum. I've got an autistic nephew but never made the connection with my problems.

    If you can pick the bones out of that and find something useful, please feel welcome.

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  • Hi, I'm a 70 year old male who has, I think, experienced similar problems to those you describe.

    I worked all my life, got promotions and ended up running a team.

    I could do the work but managing other people was very difficult and I was glad to take early retirement.

    I had problems relating to and communicating with people all my life. Not especially serious but enough to make my life difficult and unpleasant. Relationships were difficult to make and sustain. I've been married for over 40 years, have an understanding wife and have two wonderful kids and two even more wonderful grandkids. But how I came to be married is a story in itself and we have had many difficulties along the way.

    How I coped was by focusing on and controlling what I needed to do and virtually ignoring everything else and not relying on anyone else. Excluding people except when absolutely necessary. I did that throughout my life. No one got too close. I was a puzzle to people. I lived my life in compartments that never really joined up. Other people's description, not mine. One even told me I was the most controlled person he had ever met.

    All the time I felt that I was living on a knife edge. Far from controlled, believe me.

    My point is that I coped. With difficulty and by doing what I described above but it worked. For me, anyway.

    I only very recently realised that the problems I've had all my life might have had something to do with autism and I've not been diagnosed. Not yet anyway. But I've tried the AQ-10 test on here and a similar test on the Embarrassing Bodies website and the indications are that I am on the spectrum. I've got an autistic nephew but never made the connection with my problems.

    If you can pick the bones out of that and find something useful, please feel welcome.

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