Hi. I’m new here and I’m autistic.
I don't know if it's an autism thing but I get extreme anxiety when it comes to travelling. I’ve always hated travelling; when I was younger it would cause me to meltdown, and the motion of travel always made me sick. I don’t have meltdowns anymore but I do still get car sick not long after travelling in a car.
When I was little not knowing where we were exactly going made me anxious, I think that was some of the problem then. So to prevent this I try to travel short distance, five minutes into the village is long enough, and I study where I’m going first if it’s a longer journey. Thanks to GMaps I can virtually see the location and this helps. But I try not to travel too far because being away from home makes me anxious and the travel sickness remains an ever present problem.
But now there’s a major problem. My sister is getting married and has invited all the family, including me. This is a complete nightmare for me because of the distance. The wedding is 355 miles away, it would have been 500 but my sister and her fiancée have decided on a venue that is closer to everybody else to make it easier for guests to attend.
I’ve always been close with my sister, we’re still close now and chat on WhatsApp nearly every day, and I know she will be so disappointed if I don’t go. The wedding is in February and I would love to go but honestly don’t know if I can bring myself to do it. It will mean a lot of travelling, a strange place, at least a night away from home and a lot of people.
I considered taking the train instead of car but it’s only an hour less travel time (7 hours est.) and I get sick on the train as well so it’s not much of an improvement.
Really anxious about all of this and have no idea what to do about this predicament.
