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Katrina

Hi, I am new here and looking for help and support on how to manage my child’s demanding/controlling behaviour. Child is just turning 18 and so feels they are an adult and should be left to make their own decisions. Diagnosis in 2022. They feel I’m controlling them.however they are not aware of how vulnerable they are in the big wide world. The control all became too much for me a couple of months ago I had a bit of a break down from all the pressure (I’m a single parent and most likely on spectrum myself also have a non diagnosed second child) child moved in with dad. The person they couldn’t stand to see or spend anytime with until I had been pushed to my limit now apparently he’s the bees knees! I have stepped back and it has given me time to build my own self esteem and confidence back up and I feel stronger and more able to manage the negative behaviours I’m just not sure how to go at it positively without doing more damage to our relationship. 

many thanks I appreciate this is a lot. 

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  • I feel 18 (despite being substantially older) and I (arguably) display demanding and controlling behaviour.

    Unlike your child, I am aware how vulnerable we are in the big wide world.  Like you, I am considering stepping back and, like you, I am not sure how to go at it positively without doing more damage to relationships in hand.  Accordingly, my most likely course of action will be to simply "step back" and "disappear."

    Your post has been helpful to me......but I suspect not helpful to you.  Sorry 'bout that.  It's the Ying and Yang of life?

    I wish you and yours well......I hope you can sort things out and get the help and support you seek.

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  • I feel 18 (despite being substantially older) and I (arguably) display demanding and controlling behaviour.

    Unlike your child, I am aware how vulnerable we are in the big wide world.  Like you, I am considering stepping back and, like you, I am not sure how to go at it positively without doing more damage to relationships in hand.  Accordingly, my most likely course of action will be to simply "step back" and "disappear."

    Your post has been helpful to me......but I suspect not helpful to you.  Sorry 'bout that.  It's the Ying and Yang of life?

    I wish you and yours well......I hope you can sort things out and get the help and support you seek.

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